How To Survive Secondary School/High School

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 Whether you have been to secondary school/high school yet or not, you could use these tips for yourself or pass them onto younger siblings etc. Depending which country you live in, the school system will be different to other countries. Secondary school and high school usually consist of pre-teens and mid-teens. Without further ado, I shall commence with the school tips.

Making friends:

It might sound harder than you think but by simply talking to people in your classes and form and by giving off the right first impression, you should be able to make more friends by doing this. Another good way is to join a club in or outside of school which leads me onto my next point.

Joining clubs:

You don’t have to attend a club in school but a positive to joining one in school is that you’ll meet more people in your class or year and hopefully build a friendship with them. Another good thing when joining a club is that it is an extra skill for you which could help with your school work. It can also be something to put on your CV when applying for a job.

Don’t make enemies:

Enemies aren’t good in any situation of life but especially during your school life through your teens. Holding grudges against people is only an extra weight for you to drag along with you everyday. It’s best not to have any enemies because you don’t know when they’ll spring back on you. As long as you are fair, kind, considerate, loyal and honest with all your friends and people around you, you shouldn’t have any problems with anyone.

Participating in lessons:

Putting your hand up or volunteering in class can sometimes be a little embarrassing but there is no harm in trying. Despite whether you get the answer right or wrong, you will learn from what you do. It may even help you when revising that topic because you can back track to that memory from when you were in class. As you start to volunteer more in class, it will also boost your confidence and give your teacher a good impression that you are a hard working student.

Stay on top of your homework:

You may not enjoy it or want to do it, but the quicker you get it done, the better it will be for you and you’ll also be able to relax and enjoy the rest of evening or weekend! You won’t have any teachers constantly on your back or giving you detentions, make it easier for yourself and get it all done.

Don’t rush with people:

When making new friends, you don’t want to rush the person into a friendship with you because you may not get to know each other as well. It’s important to give them time and to give yourself time, it’s best to slowly build your friendship up rather than to rush into something that might not have a happy ending. Don’t put pressure onto them as you wouldn’t want them to put pressure onto you.

I may create another post similar to this if I’m able to think of more tips and tricks. I hope you enjoyed this blog and that you have a good week!

Thanks for reading

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Back To School Tips!

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Hello, I am back from my holiday. I hope you didn’t miss my blogs but if you did then don’t worry now. If any of you would like to read about my holiday then please just comment letting me know. Anyway… I thought back to school tips would be appropriate for this time of the year because it’s when everyone goes back to school and I had my first day too! Hope you enjoy my tips and find them useful!

1. Starting isn’t as scary as it sounds- if you are starting high school, secondary school or any other, don’t worry about it. You probably hear all the adults assuring you that it will be alright and I don’t mean to repeat but they are right. Everyone seems to overthink about and hear other people say it’s terrible etc, but I can reassure you that I have experienced it thinking that it was going to be bad but in actually fact it wasn’t. You might think there are strict teachers, tons of homework, you’ll make no friends BUT if you stick to the teacher’s rules, get your homework done as soon as you get it and try to socialise you will be fine. A year or so, you’ll wonder why you worried in the first place.

2. Get to know the school grounds- I don’t know about any other countries in the world but I know in England when you move up to secondary school, a few weeks before the summer holidays you spend a day at your upcoming school to get used to the new school and get to know it. This is a great idea because some people worry about getting lost but by visiting your school beforehand you get to know the area. If other countries don’t do this the they should.

3. Be organised- one of the worst things is to wake up and not have enough equipment, an unpacked bag, no outfit/uniform prepared or a lost trainer. Get all you school notebooks, notepads, folders, pencils etc a few weeks before school because you’ll spend your whole summer doing something and completely forget about. As for packing your bag, getting your outfit and sports bag ready do that the night before so you can sleep the night peacefully knowing that you are prepared and ready for school.

4. The old saying- “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” Although, some doctors might debate about this, having breakfast before school is especially important as you will be more alert and perform better in class. Food will keep your energy up and help you get through the long day of school.

5. Get enough sleep- teens need at least eight and a half hours of sleep each night to feel rested and to avoid sleep deprivation. Studies show that getting the right amount of sleep before a maths test were three times more likely to get a higher grade than those who stayed up all night.

I hope that these tips help you and whenever you start school or already have, good luck with any future tests and remember to study for the results you want! Thanks for reading xoxo

Advice & Tips For Blogging

Image Have you ever thought of starting a blog? Well then, today is your lucky day because I’m going to be giving you some advice and helpful tips about how to start a new blog.

So if you want to start blogging then, you’ve first got to decide which website you want to use. There are a lot of websites to choose from but the main ones are Blogger and WordPress. Personally, I think WordPress is better because it’s very simple and easy to use. It’s also free to use and to create your blog, there are also over 150 themes to pick from which are free too! You can access the amount of views and visitors you get, you are also able to see where the viewers are from which I think is really cool. The sign up is very easy, all you have to do is enter your email address, choose a password and a username.

Once you have created your account, you need to decide what type of blog you’ll be doing: fashion, photography, life, make up etc. Then you’ve got to choose an appropriate name that is linked to your blog, there are blog name generators that you could use or another cool way to make a name is by taking a popular quote or phase from what you are basing your blog on and then you can translate it into another language. You don’t necessarily have to do what I suggested but it is a different way of choosing the name of your blog.

Now for the tips:

1. Pictures matter- pictures make your blog look more interesting. They make it more colourful and they are likely to attract more readers but don’t just choose any random picture, choose one that will relate to the topic that you are writing about.

2. Put your post into a category and tag it with relatable topics- tagging your posts will instantly get it more views because people will often look for a post that is related to whatever they are looking and it is likely that they will look at your post if it has a good title and picture. Putting your post into a category is also like tagging it but I think doing both is best just so that your viewers can see what type of posts you have.

3. Choosing a good title- this is also important because it is the first thing that most people will see. Good titles will interest the reader and they will be more likely to look at your other posts.

4. Share your posts on social medias- by sharing your posts on social medias, it’ll make your blog more popular as SO many people have one, they’ll probably check your blog out.

5. Commenting- by commenting on other people’s blog, you are going to be noticed by the person and the other commenters. Find blogs that are similar to yours and if you comment something about their post and link your blog, they will probably check out your blog and hopefully follow it.

6. Tell your friends- your real friends will definitely look at your blog and probably enjoy reading it whatever the topic is. I’m very lucky to have friends that enjoy my blog and they show support which I am very grateful for.

7. Blog often- if you blog more regularly and frequently your audience is more likely to rise and you are going to get more views.

8. Size doesn’t matter- remember size doesn’t matter, as long as you have a committed audience that you know who enjoy your blogs then you are fine.

9. Quality over quantity- it doesn’t matter how long your posts are as long as they have good material that makes sense and they actually relate to your title then you are writing good blogs.

10. It takes time- you are going to have to be patient, you aren’t suddenly going to gain a lot of followers overnight. Nothing worth having comes easy so if you are really committed to your blog, you will gain more followers quicker than you realise.

Don’t just start a blog because you think you’ll be able to get paid a lot for it, the truth is if you aren’t passionate about what you are doing then the content probably isn’t going to be good as it should be. Only do it because you want not because you feel you have to. I hope you enjoyed this blog and that if you do start one that you gain a lot of loyal followers, happy blogging! Thanks for reading xoxo

Stop Procrastination!

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Be honest, is there something you should be doing right now? Some homework due tomorrow, a stinking pile of clots gradually growing bigger and bigger. You should be doing those things but instead you’re here, reading me lecture you about procrastination. Wait, don’t go away just yet, the next few minutes will probably be the most productive bot of procrastination you have done in your whole life.

Today, I’m going to be giving you some helpful steps on how to stop procrastination. Procrastination is about lying to yourself and telling yourself that you’ll enough time to do it tomorrow when you know you are way behind. When it comes to procrastination you have to trick yourself into getting the job done. So here I go with my steps to help you:

1. Eat an elephant- what I’m saying is you need time to digest or you’re going to make yourself sick. Reward yourself for getting through part of the project rather than waiting to reward yourself after the whole thing is over. Think about that one project that you really need to get out of the way but calm down, instead of letting it overwhelm you, organise it into small manageable sections. Think about what needs to get done and write down how you’re going to tackle the project hour by hour and make it specific by breaking down this project into smaller task. This ‘elephant’ will become less daunting.

2. Pick off the goblins- the hardest part about starting a project is always starting it, a good way to get around this is to start the project with the task you like to do best. When you do something you like, your brain releases dopamines which makes you happy.

3. Ignore the Siren’s song- this step is from Homer’s poem, The Odyssey. Odysseus is trying to get home and that required manoeuvring through the Siren’s (beautiful woman singing luring songs), the sailors that passed would often be lured onto their rocks, instead of Odysseus and his crew being lured by them, he ordered his crew to tie him up to the mast of their ship and for all the rest to plug their ears. No matter how loud he yelled and screamed to head towards the beautiful sirens, the sailors must’ve kept track. Now I’m not saying that you should tie yourself to anything but you should plan to clear any distractions that will hamper your ability to procrastinate later on. If you’re a sucker to the world wide web, have your parents change the internet or WiFi password to keep you on track for studying or whatever you need to get done. The less temptations you give into, the better you will be at getting a high grade.

I hope you found this helpful and that you get your work done, so do it now. Thanks for reading xoxo

Maintaining Friendships

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If only friendships could last like ones in films, they live next door and you spend hours together on a hot summers day in each others garden BUT we don’t live in a film world. Maintaining friendships especially during life changing events like moving house or changing classes in the new school year etc. It’s not easy, it isn’t uncommon to grow apart from your friends at this age and as you get older it becomes harder to make new friends. I’m going to give you five steps to maintaining old time friendships:

1. Communicate- Remember ‘SPE’ See Phone Email, social media can make you feel like you’re in touch with your friend more than you actually are with them. You should work hard to try to see the person whenever you can, if they don’t live near you then phone them rather than email. It will show them that you’re serious about this relationship and it allows for longer intimate conversations.

2. Send ‘You’ Greetings- Once you call them, you might feel there is an awkward silence and you don’t know how to break the ice. Send a ‘you’ greeting by asking how they are and remember to throw in a few compliments.

3. Don’t be too hard on your friend- One common thing you might notice now is that after you have been talking for a little while, is that you two have a little bit less in common but this is completely natural. Sometimes you and your friend will just drift apart, people change a lot in this time of their life now that doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends with someone, just try not to focus on your differences. Focus on your shared experiences and above all cut them some slack, think about the person you were when you first met them. You’ve changed, why can’t they?

4. Take advantage of big events- reunions, birthdays if you rarely get a chance to see your friend, these events can be perfect opportunities to reconnect and catch up with them also try to celebrate without any awkwardness, make it obvious to them and invite them to any other large gathering.

5. Have fun together- do something with your friend that you wouldn’t usually do or just hang out together when you both have homework because it will make it so much fun. You could do this once a week, it’ll broaden your conversations with them, you’ll have so many more great experiences with them and it’ll feel so rewarding for you that you two can still have fun even if you’re aren’t as close as you were before.

Now things in life don’t always go to plan and it could go wrong, maybe you two weren’t meant to be? I hope this does work for you though and don’t worry and remember everything does happen for a reason. If they don’t work out then just remember about all the great things you did together and treasure those memories for life.

I hope you found this blog helpful and that things in life don’t always go to plan, you just have to accept it and move on. If you do try it and let me know how you got on in the comments, good luck! Thanks for reading xoxo

Bullying

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Bullying is a very serious topic and unfortunately many children and teenagers are bullied all around the world and this may sound very negative but I don’t think bullying will ever stop because there will always be that group of people that will never stop bullying and they’ll spread their negativity.

5 stages of bullying:

1. Watching and waiting- what I mean by this is that they will look for someone smaller and weaker to pick on and then they will watch how you react to things and then they look for your weaknesses and then use them against you.

2. Testing with their “gang”- they will start to watch you and see how you react to the little things, if they like your reaction they pick on you more and more, they will observe you and see if you will put up a fight.

3. Stepping it up a notch- as they start to enjoy your reaction to the little things they will gradually increase it and they just keep doing this.

4. Gathering momentum- when you realise that you are being bullied, they’ll know that you know. If you tell an adult or teacher and they then have a word with the bullies, they won’t care they like getting the attention and they’ll just keep doing this.

5. Bullying is established- you are now officially being bullied, this isn’t acceptable and it seriously needs to be dealt with.

There are many forms of bullying, cyber bullying, insults, physical and many more but these are the main ones. My two have friends have been in this situation, in this case I shall call them 1 and 2. 1 is quite a small girl and very vulnerable whereas 2 is much taller compared to 1, 2 is sometimes very aggressive and can take her rage out on other people anyway people around 2 provoke 2 to bully 1 and 2 does this because she doesn’t want to seem uncool or not popular. 2 has been bullying 1 for nearly 3 years and 1 is scared to report this abuse because 1 is scared of the outcome and she thinks it’ll make matters worse. I support 1 and all her friends do but 1 just can’t realise that she is being bullied, she’s completely oblivious to this and I wish that she’d realise.

Please don’t feel like 1, she is afraid to relax at school and you too shouldn’t feel like this either because school is a place where you shouldn’t want to feel captured or trapped because your school years are probably the best years of your life. Don’t feel as if you cannot do anything to stop being bullied because you can, it may sound hard but try not to react because that’s what they feed on and reacting will just make matters even worse.

If you feel abandoned or feel like you can’t escape don’t take the easy way out if you know what I mean (suicide). You’ve got so much ahead of you so don’t let a group of people take your life away from you, your life is probably more worthwhile than theres. Stay strong and if you ever need help talk to someone you really trust or maybe talk to a counsellor, you never know how much it could help.

Bullies are the people who are normally insecure with themselves or are jealous. Instead of dealing with their problems, they take it out on other people and then it causes them to look like the bad guy but in fact there is probably a little child screaming inside of them for help and they don’t know another way to ask for it. It may help you if instead of you being bullied ask if they need a shoulder to cry on or a talk because it may help and it could prevent you or someone else being bullied. Just one small act of kindness could really help someone out.

I hope one of these websites below will help to ease your mind:

http://www.childline.org.uk/Explore/Bullying/Pages/Bullying.aspx?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign_name=ABW2013&utm_campaign=Anti-Bullying_Bullying_Generic_Bullying_Websites&utm_term=bullying_websites&gclid=CMXUtvKcz7wCFWXnwgodxHgArw

http://www.beatbullying.org

http://www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org/#/home

I hope these help you. Thanks for reading!

Until next time bye xoxo