How To Survive Secondary School/High School

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 Whether you have been to secondary school/high school yet or not, you could use these tips for yourself or pass them onto younger siblings etc. Depending which country you live in, the school system will be different to other countries. Secondary school and high school usually consist of pre-teens and mid-teens. Without further ado, I shall commence with the school tips.

Making friends:

It might sound harder than you think but by simply talking to people in your classes and form and by giving off the right first impression, you should be able to make more friends by doing this. Another good way is to join a club in or outside of school which leads me onto my next point.

Joining clubs:

You don’t have to attend a club in school but a positive to joining one in school is that you’ll meet more people in your class or year and hopefully build a friendship with them. Another good thing when joining a club is that it is an extra skill for you which could help with your school work. It can also be something to put on your CV when applying for a job.

Don’t make enemies:

Enemies aren’t good in any situation of life but especially during your school life through your teens. Holding grudges against people is only an extra weight for you to drag along with you everyday. It’s best not to have any enemies because you don’t know when they’ll spring back on you. As long as you are fair, kind, considerate, loyal and honest with all your friends and people around you, you shouldn’t have any problems with anyone.

Participating in lessons:

Putting your hand up or volunteering in class can sometimes be a little embarrassing but there is no harm in trying. Despite whether you get the answer right or wrong, you will learn from what you do. It may even help you when revising that topic because you can back track to that memory from when you were in class. As you start to volunteer more in class, it will also boost your confidence and give your teacher a good impression that you are a hard working student.

Stay on top of your homework:

You may not enjoy it or want to do it, but the quicker you get it done, the better it will be for you and you’ll also be able to relax and enjoy the rest of evening or weekend! You won’t have any teachers constantly on your back or giving you detentions, make it easier for yourself and get it all done.

Don’t rush with people:

When making new friends, you don’t want to rush the person into a friendship with you because you may not get to know each other as well. It’s important to give them time and to give yourself time, it’s best to slowly build your friendship up rather than to rush into something that might not have a happy ending. Don’t put pressure onto them as you wouldn’t want them to put pressure onto you.

I may create another post similar to this if I’m able to think of more tips and tricks. I hope you enjoyed this blog and that you have a good week!

Thanks for reading

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Making Decisions… No Matter The Size!

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Our lives are based on so many decisions we or others make. No matter how big the decision is, there will always be a consequence whether it is good or bad. There is always a battle in our mind between our intuition and logic. Unfortunately, most of the time our intuitive side kicks in more than our logic but some people like to take to gamble and end up with something they weren’t expecting with or don’t like.

We are always making choices but don’t realise it like what you want to have for breakfast, lunch or choose what film to watch etc. Now choosing things like this, don’t affect us permanently but when it comes to our education, money etc the whole story changes. As a teen, I’ve already been made to decide some big things that will matter in my life. I had to choose what I wanted to take for my GCSEs which do eventually point me in the direction of a career in later life, adults expect us to have our life planned out at this age and even if we have a plan now I can guarantee that it will change in a couple of years time or just before we start university.

Why is it that at such a young age we have to make big life-changing decisions? Most adults can’t even make decisions now so why are we expected to make them now? I’m sure that my generation is completely different to how our parent’s generation were in their teen years and a lot of parents and people seem to be managing so why should we make the decisions now when our parents didn’t.

Decisions we make throughout our lives will decide our fate and we usually meet people on the way that can make this journey something unforgettable and you get so many opportunities and experiences by deciding things for yourselves.

Remember you do have to go with what you think is best and not decide in the heat of the moment. Sometimes it is right to go with your head and not your heart but if you do want to take them gamble then go for it, no one is stopping you. Also, don’t let other people’s thoughts change your mind, take their comments into consideration but decide for yourself because in the end you will be dealing with the outcome. Whenever you do make a big decision next time, list the pros and cons to ensure you choose the right thing.

I hope you enjoyed this blog and make the best decisions you can in life. Thanks for reading xoxo

What To Do in The Summer!

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Some of you might be stuck for ideas for what to do during your summer holiday because let’s be honest, I can guarantee that most of us have spent it on the internet, YouTube etc. I’ll be giving you some ideas to for your holiday to do alone, with family and friends.

1. Have a sleepover- this might seem boring or a really obvious one but you should organise one and see how many people you can get as possible because the more the merrier, having one friend over is also fun too. Once you have everyone round, you might be stuck for ideas. You could apple bob, play truth or dare, have a massive rave to music and pretend to be a rockstar! Having a chilled sleepover is just as fun, you could have a movie marathon, play on a Wii and just relax.

2. A big meet-up- you could meet all your friends or bring a group of six people and more to the closest park, you could go swimming, the cinema or walk through your town’s forest and explore the whole day!

3. Water fight- you and your friends could fill up balloons with water, buy cheap water guns and even get a paddling pool out. Make your own garden a water resort, just make sure not to hit anyone in the face!

4. Camp out- you could go camping one night with your friends or family. If you can’t go to a campsite, you could do it in your garden or on your trampoline if you have one!

5. Make your own music- if you can play an instrument already, you could learn to play a new song . If you have other friends that can also play or sing, you could make a band, think of name, practise a song altogether, film it and if you are confident with it, put it up on YouTube! You could also just play in your new band for fun.

6. Chill day- you don’t always have to be doing something in the holidays, you’ve had a whole year of hard work, you’ve deserve a day to relax. You could go into your garden, lay on the grass and just listen to your music maybe even a little doze. Watch a few films and pig out by ordering something, enjoy yourself!

7. Try cooking- if you don’t cook much or don’t know how to, now’s your chance! Find some easy recipes online and try them with a friend. Cupcakes, homemade pizza, brownies, smoothies, anything!

8. Pamper evening- have an evening where you pamper yourself, have a bubble bath, take the night easily, re-read your favourite book, paint your nails, whatever you fancy.

9. Shopping- if you need to get something new for your wardrobe or want to change your style, go for it and invite some friends with you.

10. Spend time with loved ones- spend time with your family, friends or pet. Spending time your pet might seem little odd but you have to appreciate them because you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

I hope you are all having a good summer and are enjoying it! Thanks for reading xoxo

Stop Judging

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I’ve noticed that a lot of people judge each other especially teens. To be honest, I don’t really know why people do this, do we gain anything from it? The only reason I can think of is it that when we judge people we assume the better looking people can achieve more and are just overall better people. In actual fact, by doing this we are normally wrong but because it is a habit, we cannot get out of it. There are so many stereotypes that we often base our judgements on that person’s specific stereotype.

Unfortunately, some people always judge and can never get out of the ‘routine’. It doesn’t help you in life so if you think you are a judgmental person then you need to get out of that habit because it isn’t going to impact you in a good way. I’ve recognised that a lot of people in my school judge each other and this often causes a lot arguments. Even after these arguments happen, the people still decide to do what they do. I think even after multiple times of having arguments with people won’t open their eyes to what they do, something big would have to happen for them to realise what they do.

Judging has a bad outcome and that is missing some people with amazing qualities. Just imagine if you are criticising a new person that joins your school, you don’t have a clue about who they are or their personality. You may judge them on their name, race, religion, looks or something else but the point you are missing is that person is a loyal, trustworthy and fun persona and because of your judgemental nature, you have missed a great friend and possibly a life long best friend. Before you ever judge someone, put yourself into their shoes, if you were new somewhere or looking for a new group of friends etc would you want to be judged on your looks or past decisions. If you had ever made a bad decision in your past and you were judged for that, would you ever get anywhere in life?

I don’t know if I have ever been judged by others but I know friends that have been by other people. I can tell you that being judged isn’t the best feeling in the world and it consistently feels like that you are being overlooked by someone else. I can’t even imagine feeling like this, walking into school or your job area and feeling like that a specific group of people are always talking about you. If a group of people are criticising you, it’s probably because they are jealous of something you have or can do. You should be reassured that people aren’t judging you but that they are envying you because that lets you know you are doing well with your life and that you pursue a living that people envy.

When you try to find new friends or become part of a new friendship group, the people should accept you even if you have something wrong in your past. I can assure you that all of the people in that group have done something wrong, you shouldn’t worry about your past because that is in the PAST and if bad things have happened then they should be forgotten like everyone else has forgotten their bad past. If the people in that group are judging you then they aren’t the right people to make friends with.

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If you haven’t seen this film, Beauty and The Beast, then you need to watch it. If you have seen the film then you know that this picture perfecting represents why you shouldn’t judge people. Under everyone’s looks, they could have the best personality without you realising but you have to get to know them before you judge them.

I hope that you enjoyed this week’s blog and continue to enjoy my posts! Thanks for reading xoxo

Teenage Drug Usage

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Just before I start to write about this topic, I want to make one thing clear and that is that I have never taken drugs before and I do not have any contact with any dealers. Everything that I write about is what I have learnt and heard from friends.

I’ve recently noticed that a lot of people have started to take or smoke drugs and a very large majority of them are in the early teens. It’s becoming more popular that teens take drugs and to be honest I don’t know why. Why is it that it’s our generation being abused with drugs? I suppose the answer to this is that we are probably the easiest age group to target and as a lot of people in the media are taking drugs, teens are more willing to try them. The dealers aren’t complaining though because they are the ones taking in all the money and they don’t care about the ages of their customers because business is business.

One of the main reasons of why many teens take or try drugs is because of the people around them or peer pressure. If your parents or older siblings take any substances then you are more likely to try them because the drugs are in reach which tempts you to try them. Peer pressure is a big cause because the teen social scene is revolved around drinking, smoking and taking drugs. If you have older friends then they are probably more likely to know someone who sells drugs or they might take it themselves. Your friend might urge you to try a joint or something else and drugs are usually seen as a ‘normal teenage experience’ but really it’s not, if you think about the teens decades ago they would’ve thought that it was definitely odd for teens to take drugs and it is. We are still growing up and why should a plant affect our future body and mind, if you’d see the side effects and the facts about drugs I think it would put you off. Please if you are ever offered drugs, a cigarette or an alcoholic drink decline it. Think about what you are putting into your body and think about how you are affecting it.

Another purpose of drug use is because of boredom and wanting to ‘escape’ the world. What I mean by that is when a teen is unhappy with something in their life, they will want to find a solution of ‘escaping’ and that escape is often drugs. At a certain point when you are mostly mentally weak if you are offered a drug, it’ll be harder for you to refuse and unfortunately it would end up with you taking the drug.  Depending on what is taken you may feel happy, oblivious, hyper, confident etc and whatever the effect is it’ll work but once you recover you will realise that you have made a mistake. If you are still feeling down, you’ll feel as if the drug is your only escape to happiness but in actual fact, it is making the whole situation worse and rather than doing that try and sort it out whatever it is even if you need professional help because sorting the problem out is better than feeling like no one can help you.

I know a few people who take certain drugs and I won’t mention their names but whenever I see them do it, I feel disappointed that they take drugs because I have know them nearly their whole life. To see them change and grow into a bad habit destroys me and it jut shows me that people can change so much. I have often tried to convince them to stop because they’ll get addicted and that a lot of them will change without them realising. They always reassure me that they will not get addicted and that they’d stop soon but I still feel weary that they won’t stop.

I have seen the side effects in person and seen the difference between the old person and the new person who had been taking drugs. The effects aren’t good and if you could see the effects yourself you’d be shocked. The appearance and the overall person changes and you’d be horrified if you’d see them happen to you. If you actually thought about it and saw yourself in the mirror I’m sure you would be convinced to stop because some causes are long term and the usage of drugs can also cause many types of cancers.

I hope you found this blog interesting and that I have changed your view of drugs, please make wise decisions with what you do. Thanks for reading xoxo