Feminism is for Everyone.


A lot people don’t quite understand feminism. They think that it is when women over power, this isn’t the case. Feminism is when both men and women fight for equality rights. Some people say that women now have too many rights, in some parts of the world and still in more developed countries women aren’t being treated with the same rights as men.

Many famous women have spoken out for this gender. However, sexism is still present within the 21st century. At a young age, society teaches children how girls and boys should look and how they should act. We are taught at a young age that girls should wear dresses, make up, like fancy shoes etc. Boys are also taught that they must be strong, “manly”, that they shouldn’t  show their feelings or cry otherwise they won’t be manly enough.

Some expressions that I really hate are “you throw like a girl” or “just because you’re a girl”. So many guys use these, it really annoys me and it just encourages me even more to prove them wrong and that I as a girl can do something to a good standard and beat them at something. They don’t realise what it does to a girl’s mind. Society shows girls are only good for cooking, housework, sleeping with men etc. It sickens me that even now in this day and age, this still hasn’t been sorted out.

All over media, women are shown and often used as sex objects. They are shown that they have no feelings or emotions and that we have less power than a male in a relationship. There are many strong women in this world who have shown and proven that we can do something and achieve something for ourselves. The media shows that women should be slim, tall, be a certain weight etc. However, media has changed and now tells us that having curves is beautiful. What every little girl and boy should be taught at a young age is that any body size or shape is amazing and that their’s is too.

Gradually, women are getting the equality we want and deserve. I sometimes wonder why are we treated differently, so many women in the past have shown we are just as capable as men. During the Second World War, while men were out fighting, women were left at home to look after the houses, cook for a family, clean a house, work at factories, farms and to keep their country on it’s two feet. We are strong and capable. Even young women have shown that we are. Malala Yousafzai fought for women’s right to an education in Pakistan, she was unfortunately shoot by the Taliban but she luckily managed to recover from her wound and she still pursues her beliefs out women’s rights.

Society tells boys that they shouldn’t hit a girl back. Abusing anyone is not right. Hitting girls isn’t fair because we are “weak” but we are just as capable and strong as boys. Being tough, doesn’t make you any less of a woman. All stereotypes should be erased, they are a false perspective of a person or a group of people.

Feminism isn’t female supremacy, feminism is female equality in all aspects of our lives.

I hope you have understood the small section of what it is like to be a girl and can hopefully understand why we fight for equality.

Thanks for reading



Welcome to The Internet


Last week, I saw a programme called “Cyberbully”. It is about a teen girl who uses a lot of internet and technology in her life. It has become a big part of everyone’s life. She has been exposed to too much of the internet, she then soon found herself in danger because of her past. An internet troll had hacked into her laptop, details etc. The person then confronted her past, she was provoked to think about it and take action. I would recommend watching it especially if you’re teen. If you have access to 4oD (Channel 4 player) you can watch it there. This programme has inspired today’s blog.

Welcome to the internet, it’s a place full of both good and bad things. It has affected everyone’s lives whether positively or negatively. At this current moment, there are 2,641,817,003 users but this is constantly changing, every minute, every second. Billions of people use the internet in different ways. Socially connecting, shopping, for work, emails and so much more. We are now living in a world where it is impossible for us not to use the internet or technology.

As humans, we have evolved to rely on the internet. I think it is safe to say that we perhaps use it too much and can sometimes get in the way of our everyday lives. We have become so reliant to it, it is hard for the majority of us to reduce or daily usage of it. It can be disappointing at times, that we have become subservient on the web, that we must rely on the something that didn’t exist forty years ago. Why must our generation and the ones to come use the internet as if it were a drug?

There may be a lot of good things about the internet but there quite a lot of bad things that weigh it out. Every teen and child has probably had the “internet safety lecture” by their parents or teachers. You’ve probably heard it so many times that you think that you are now an expert of the internet. You cannot truly say you know what it is like unless you have experienced it yourself. I haven’t experienced anything bad and I hope not but if you have you know what it is like. Whether it was your fault or not, it is still a huge danger and possibly life changing. You don’t what the “internet trolls” are like but stereotypically they are middle aged men targeting teens especially girls. They are geniuses at what they do and it can sometimes be hard to track them down. No one wants to ever experience any internet problems but the way to keep yourself safe is to always know who you are talking to, who you are letting follow you, who you’re friends with etc. Another way by staying safe would to keep all your information safe and to yourself. I may sound like a patronising mother but they are the ways to stay safe.

On the other hand, the internet has brought us so many good things for us. We are now able to connect to people all across the world in a matter of seconds, sometimes I think about how this is even possible. How can we communicate with some thousands of miles away in such a small amount of time? Humanity has changed some much, for the good and bad. The internet has made anything and almost everything accessible from wherever we may in the world. We use it for so many things, it has now become a huge part in our lives. I do admit that I can sometimes be addicted to the internet. It has definitely helped me in many times but maybe not so much in other circumstances.

Hopefully, all of you shall stay safe on the internet.

Thanks for reading


The True Meaning Of Christmas?


I thought that this was the right time to write about something like this. Before, I begin whatever I may say that what I think the true meaning of Christmas means doesn’t mean that I’m right everyone will have a different opinion to me maybe because of religion or just even personal thoughts. Despite what I think Christmas means, I do not mean to imply that my interpretation is correct. Everyone has their own opinion and is entitled to one.

Occasionally, around this time of year, you often hear people usually older generations saying that we do not know the true meaning of Christmas but we all have different ideas of what Christmas should be like. Technology is often used an excuse, I can guarantee that at least one person in each household would receive a gadget. Most children care more about the presents rather than anything else but as we grow up we realise what it was like to be a child during Christmas. It was amazing, the excitement of Santa, his reindeer etc. As you grow up, reality kicks in and you start to lose interest. This might not be necessarily true for everyone but for some it may. During Christmas, children grow up thinking about the presents, what they’ll get, whose present is better than whose. We can’t always blame the children though, society and media is evolving quickly. Material items are being portrayed to be more important rather than family, friends, memories etc. As a result of this, children do start to forget the true meaning of Christmas.

It is a different story if you are religious, for Christians I know that the birth of Jesus is why we celebrate this holiday but for other religions e.g. Judaism I am not 100% sure of the meaning of Hanukkah (apologies if I have misspelled). When I was younger, I remember being taught that presents weren’t why Christmas was important but that Jesus, our loved ones etc were the reason. I guess as you grow up you start to realise the true meaning of all of this. No matter what you believe in, we all have an idea of what Christmas, Hanukkah, Eid etc should be like.

As I have matured, I think Christmas means when you come to realise all the things you have and to be grateful and appreciate what you have rather than what you don’t. To cherish all your family and friends as others may not be able to do so.

I hope you enjoyed this blog, thank you to all my readers and I hope you have a great time celebrating whatever festivity you celebrate and have a happy new year!

Before I go, I am going on holiday from tomorrow, I may not be able to post until the week of January the 5th. If I’m not able to write, I will write a huge blog about my holiday!

Thanks for reading


Peer Pressure


I apologise for not writing my blog last week, I had an unexpected shift at work but no need to dwell on that. Today I have chosen to write about peer pressure as this was previously brought up earlier in the week and I think this is a reason as to why teens choose to do what they do.

Most teens are peer pressured to do something or try something new, in some cases the person being pressured wants to try whatever they are being pressured into and sometimes use the pressure as an excuse. Friends can sometimes encourage you to do bad things like smoke, drink, commit crimes etc. If your friends do pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable then you should know when to tell them to stop and perhaps you shouldn’t talk to them anymore. If they push your boundaries and don’t  know when to stop, then you should tell them and put them in their place. No one should ever make you feel awkward or uncomfortable in a situation especially a friend. You know where the line is and if it’s necessary, you should have to tell them.

Occasionally, people will give into peer pressure because they want to fit in with everyone else. Some people think being different is bad and that we should all be the same but that makes life boring. Another reason why people may give in is because people are afraid to lose their friends. If they were your real friends, they would respect and understand when they have crossed the line. You shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed to say no. You don’t have to be in a situation where you feel awkward, everyone has limits whether they are stronger than others, no one’s self respect should be taken away. “Good friends will respect your individuality”. 

The media can sometimes also affect peer pressure. More and more things are becoming acceptable in magazines, on the TV etc, women and men’s bodies are being exposed more. I think because of this, teens think it is okay to push people to their limits and beyond. They don’t realise how people feel and think about the exposure and abuse towards teens because of the media, people don’t realise how much of an effect it has on this generation.

Your friends can teach you a lot about yourself, they help you develop and learn more things about you that you may not have known without their help. Friends can help you, support and motivate you to succeed with anything in life. However, some friends can influence you to do bad things because of peer pressure.

I hope today’s blog was an interesting read for you.

Thanks for reading


Be YOUnique


Just to begin with this is my 50th blog post! It’s safe to say I have come a long way since February and a lot of things have happened since then but nevertheless I’m glad that I decided to post my first blog and couldn’t be happier with that decision. Without further ado, I shall carry on with my usual blog.

I’ve been thinking recently about this topic and thought about when I was younger, I do have to admit I think I did try to fit in with everybody else but soon after time it came to me that I didn’t have to pretend to be someone else because I knew other people that were like me and I’m glad I came out of my shell because I found a great group of friends once I started acting like my true self.

I guess you could use my experience if you think you are trying to fit in but you know it’s not going to work. After all, someone will suss you out, you might as well break free now instead of people thinking you are a fake person etc. If you do decide to, there will be someone there, that’ll accept you for you and eventually once you find a group of friends, you’ll be glad that you made this decision. Hopefully, other people will see that this is working so they will decide to do the same and you never know you may inspire someone else to do the same thing.

Personally, I don’t understand why some people want to do act like some they aren’t because you spend time being someone you aren’t, having to like things you might actually despise, the list goes on. Society tells us to be ourselves, yet when we come out with our true personalities and likes, we are judged. Don’t be scared to be yourself, even if you think no one will like you, sooner or later you will find someone that will appreciate you for YOU. People around you might be also thinking about this, whether to be themselves or not, if they do then the best thing to do is to show that you respect them because you’d want the same if you were in that situation.

I”m glad to say that I’ve got a good group of friends that have helped me through everything recently. You want to find friends that’ll help you too because they could help you later in life when least expected. To all my friends that are reading, you know who you are and I thank you for everything that you have done for me and helped me with.

I hope you can make the right decision in the end and find the right people to be around with. Thanks for reading xoxo

Music: Different Taste, Different Opinions


We all have different perspectives on music. Some of us like rock, jazz, classical, pop etc which is great because why should we like the same type of music? Loads of people probably say this to you but being different is better, you’re more interesting and there is no one else like you in the world. Being unique is something no one can take away from you and one of the best ways to express that is through music. Despite whatever music you like, whatever it is that’s makes you happy and enjoy your music then who cares what music you listen to.

I often find that people are judged for their music taste but I don’t really understand why. Why judge someone for being different and liking something different to you? Music can give so many emotions to one person and comfort people. I remember once a friend asked for a music request and I said ” Nirvana’s Nevermind Album”. They questioned me why I liked Nirvana and I said that even though their music might seem “too loud and too grunge” they are a good band and make amazing music. I don’t even know to this day if they still don’t understand why I like rock music but one of the reasons I like rock music is because weirdly enough it can relax and sometimes when I’m in the mood it gives a hyper feeling. I love that one style I music can do this to me.

I used to like pop but then I realised it all sounded the same and that it was boring to my liking. I remember hearing hearing The Arctic Monkeys on a chat show and liking their music and that’s what got me into rock music. Whatever kind of music you prefer, I respect that because if it can make you feel good, relaxed or help you in any way then that is the best kind of music for you. You shouldn’t be afraid to like a different type of music to your friends because like I said before everyone is different and will like different things and it doesn’t matter if you like classical and your friends like pop or country etc because if they are your true friends they’ll respect your music choice and they might like the same kind as you. A person and I were friends but we weren’t that close but once we found out that we had the same music, we instantly became closer and I thank music for bringing me closer to someone because I’ve now found an amazing friend to hopefully spend my life with.

Some people in my generation fake their music taste and I don’t understand why. I guess they do this because they think they will “fit” in with other people but you’ll find that everyone likes different things to you and there is no point in pretending to like something. People will like you for the real you rather than the fake you. Some people act like they like pop music because everyone supposedly likes pop music but I think only a small majority of people like pop. Something I find irritating about pop music is that it is the only kind if music played on popular radio stations e.g. Capital, Kiss, Heart. I don’t know why these particular radio stations couldn’t try another genre of music but my best guess is that pop music is the most “popular” music in this century.

I hope you enjoyed this week’s post and I hope you can have pride in yourself to express your own music taste. Thanks for reading xoxo

Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin


Nowadays I think being yourself is hard for people to do because there are so many different distractions that often lead us astray from our real selves. Sadly, most people try hard to change themselves into someone who they are really not, I think because we are surrounded by some many different perceptions of how we should be as a person, we are often confused and misled into what we think is ‘perfect’.

In order, to be your true self you must find yourself and define who you are but you cannot be yourself if you don’t know, understand and accept yourself first. Spend some time thinking about what you truly value and think about what really makes you who you are. Personality tests would probably help you too but don’t let the results define who you really are. Another way to find out more about yourself is perhaps joining a club that you might not always go for because you could learn something new about yourself. If this doesn’t work then you could join a club that you do have interests in because you will have a variety of new people to  meet who also enjoy the same things as you do.

Avoid the things that happened in the past because people grown and change. “The past can hurt but the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it”-Rafiki (The Lion King). One of the wrong things to do is define yourself from your past actions now we all make mistakes but you cannot judge yourself from them. You’ve got to accept the mistakes and choices you’ve made; they’re done and in the past. At that moment in time, you had your reasons that made sense to make those decisions so instead of wasting time in regretting the choices you made, allow yourself to learn from it and continue to grow.

Now if you are going to be the real you, there are obviously going to be some people who will judge you and you shouldn’t really care about how people perceive you because if you thought about yourself from other people’s view, you would be always be changing yourself but you will never be able to create the ‘perfect’ you to satisfy everyone. To be yourself, you’ve got to let go of their concerns and not let their thoughts and opinions of you, change who you are. People may offend you but as long as you don’t take their comments in then they cannot interfere within you. I think that a lot of people base themselves on others people’s thoughts but if you do this then you aren’t going to be the real you, people would love and accept you more for the real you rather than the fake you. If you are changing yourself to impress someone then you shouldn’t because they are being impressed by the wrong you and the true you is probably better than the other person you are pretending to be. This person might find out that you are trying to be different in order to impress them, this could lead them to thinking that you are a bad or lying person, which in actual fact you probably aren’t. So to make sure that people aren’t deceived by the wrong person, be yourself and you’ll be accepted and loved more because of that.

To find out more about yourself, you are going to have to be honest and open with yourself. You’ve got nothing to hide, we are all imperfect but learning human beings, so there is nothing to be ashamed of whether it is emotionally or physically because we all have our imperfections. If you feel insecure about yourself then try to change it because it’s not going to get any better and that problem will just keep growing on you, it’ll make you feel better and you’ll know that you can achieve more than you think.

Expressing yourself is a great way in being yourself whether that is learning something new, dancing, singing, painting etc. By expressing your sense of style, you will be able to communicate well. Doing what you love will always result with positive outcomes and by doing that you are going to be living a healthier and happier lifestyle. The better you express yourself, the easier it will be for people to understand you as a person and they are more likely to prefer the real you.

You are never going to be happy if you compare yourself to others because remember there is a thing called Photoshop and you are always going to be deceived of what a real and natural person is. You are always going to see the appearance that people in public would dream of having but in reality that person’s body or hair isn’t real and it has been edited on. Avoid being harsh to yourself because you aren’t a Hollywood star with a life coach who is planning your diet and lifestyle, how are you supposed to be ‘perfect’ when you haven’t got any support. You cannot depend your looks on something that isn’t even real.

Being different to everyone else is an amazing thing and having your own clothing style is great because it truly expresses who you are and your mood. Your clothes really state who you are and it shows everyone your true style. Your fashion sense will show everyone for who you are and people are going to be more attracted for your unique side. People might criticise you for it but don’t let their opinion change you.

This has been one of my longest posts but there are so many things to say about this topic, I hope that you are able to achieve your true self and I’m sure that people will accept you for it. Thanks for reading xoxo