Just to begin with this is my 50th blog post! It’s safe to say I have come a long way since February and a lot of things have happened since then but nevertheless I’m glad that I decided to post my first blog and couldn’t be happier with that decision. Without further ado, I shall carry on with my usual blog.
I’ve been thinking recently about this topic and thought about when I was younger, I do have to admit I think I did try to fit in with everybody else but soon after time it came to me that I didn’t have to pretend to be someone else because I knew other people that were like me and I’m glad I came out of my shell because I found a great group of friends once I started acting like my true self.
I guess you could use my experience if you think you are trying to fit in but you know it’s not going to work. After all, someone will suss you out, you might as well break free now instead of people thinking you are a fake person etc. If you do decide to, there will be someone there, that’ll accept you for you and eventually once you find a group of friends, you’ll be glad that you made this decision. Hopefully, other people will see that this is working so they will decide to do the same and you never know you may inspire someone else to do the same thing.
Personally, I don’t understand why some people want to do act like some they aren’t because you spend time being someone you aren’t, having to like things you might actually despise, the list goes on. Society tells us to be ourselves, yet when we come out with our true personalities and likes, we are judged. Don’t be scared to be yourself, even if you think no one will like you, sooner or later you will find someone that will appreciate you for YOU. People around you might be also thinking about this, whether to be themselves or not, if they do then the best thing to do is to show that you respect them because you’d want the same if you were in that situation.
I”m glad to say that I’ve got a good group of friends that have helped me through everything recently. You want to find friends that’ll help you too because they could help you later in life when least expected. To all my friends that are reading, you know who you are and I thank you for everything that you have done for me and helped me with.
I hope you can make the right decision in the end and find the right people to be around with. Thanks for reading xoxo
Has your friend ever mentioned self harm or suicide? You must take it seriously and if you really think that the person is in danger then call 999 or poison control centre immediately because their life is more important than their privacy. Life can get so complicated and overwhelming its sometimes hard to imagine that things will get better and most people bounce back, unfortunately some don’t. Suicide is a tragedy that affects all people. Suicide is one of the leading causes of death for people younger than 24.
Here’s what to do when you suspect a friend that might have thoughts of suicide.
1.Learn to recognise the dangerous signs- if they talk about themselves being hopeless or they act anxious. If there is a change in their behaviour and they are being withdrawn, there might also be signs that they are sleeping more or less. They might have hard some alcohol or drugs, they might start to give away or sell their belongings.
2. Initiate dialogue in a non judgmental way- sit them down in a comfort and familiar environment also ensure that you can speak privately and freely in this place. Make it obvious how much care you care about them and say that their behaviour is concerning you. If you think they are a danger to themselves then immediately call 999. Get rid of a pills, razor blades and any other dangerous objects because they are lethal weapons in the hands of a person considering suicide.
3. React with feeling- if your friend DOES confide suicidal thoughts, be compassionate and make it known that you are there to listen. Don’t aim to change their mind because they will close up and won’t speak out also don’t try to cause any arguments. Find put what is hurting them and why they want to commit suicide.
4. Shift the focus from sources of pain- by doing this you should go to the resources of treatment because they may be internal demons inside of them and they might need professional help in order to solve those problems. People who have wanted to commit suicide might have had depression, anxiety or other mood disorders but don’t worry because they can diagnosed and treated. Encourage them to seek help and offer to work with them too.
5. Stay connected- once your friend is on the path to recovery, you must make sure that they are okay because some people go backwards and end up where they started. Encourage family and other close friends to check on them during this vulnerable time, this is one of the most important steps and please do your own independent research because you might find different methods to help someone.
You could save a life by reaching out to someone who is in need. Remember most people don’t want to commit suicide, sometimes they just think it’s the easiest way out out things and that it’ll end all their suffering. This is an extremely delicate situation so you have to be really calm when you are around this person. Don’t try to pressure them either because it’ll worry them more and they will feel as they won’t be able to trust you.
I hope you could help someone and that you found this useful. Thanks for reading xoxo