How To Survive Secondary School/High School

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 Whether you have been to secondary school/high school yet or not, you could use these tips for yourself or pass them onto younger siblings etc. Depending which country you live in, the school system will be different to other countries. Secondary school and high school usually consist of pre-teens and mid-teens. Without further ado, I shall commence with the school tips.

Making friends:

It might sound harder than you think but by simply talking to people in your classes and form and by giving off the right first impression, you should be able to make more friends by doing this. Another good way is to join a club in or outside of school which leads me onto my next point.

Joining clubs:

You don’t have to attend a club in school but a positive to joining one in school is that you’ll meet more people in your class or year and hopefully build a friendship with them. Another good thing when joining a club is that it is an extra skill for you which could help with your school work. It can also be something to put on your CV when applying for a job.

Don’t make enemies:

Enemies aren’t good in any situation of life but especially during your school life through your teens. Holding grudges against people is only an extra weight for you to drag along with you everyday. It’s best not to have any enemies because you don’t know when they’ll spring back on you. As long as you are fair, kind, considerate, loyal and honest with all your friends and people around you, you shouldn’t have any problems with anyone.

Participating in lessons:

Putting your hand up or volunteering in class can sometimes be a little embarrassing but there is no harm in trying. Despite whether you get the answer right or wrong, you will learn from what you do. It may even help you when revising that topic because you can back track to that memory from when you were in class. As you start to volunteer more in class, it will also boost your confidence and give your teacher a good impression that you are a hard working student.

Stay on top of your homework:

You may not enjoy it or want to do it, but the quicker you get it done, the better it will be for you and you’ll also be able to relax and enjoy the rest of evening or weekend! You won’t have any teachers constantly on your back or giving you detentions, make it easier for yourself and get it all done.

Don’t rush with people:

When making new friends, you don’t want to rush the person into a friendship with you because you may not get to know each other as well. It’s important to give them time and to give yourself time, it’s best to slowly build your friendship up rather than to rush into something that might not have a happy ending. Don’t put pressure onto them as you wouldn’t want them to put pressure onto you.

I may create another post similar to this if I’m able to think of more tips and tricks. I hope you enjoyed this blog and that you have a good week!

Thanks for reading

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Embrace the Little Things in Life

Some of may be wondering why I didn’t write a blog on Wednesday and the reason is because I was on holiday and unfortunately I wasn’t able to access any Wi-Fi so I had to postpone my blog until I got back and from the title you can probably guess what I’m going to write about this also ties in nicely with the holiday I’ve had with my friend, her family and I.

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If any of you have gone to Hastings then you’ll probably know where I took this picture but if you haven’t been there or even heard of this place, this was taken on East Cliff and let me tell you, the view was amazing and because it was such a hot day, the wind on top of the cliff was perfect. My friend and I took a few pictures, embraced the view and then went to the field behind us, we had an ice cream and we just lay on the grass, talked and watched the clouds go by. Even just doing this on a holiday may sound like you are wasting your time but you aren’t. Enjoying whatever you are doing, wherever you are and taking the whole day into consideration is embracing the precious, rare moments in life. I already miss the view and being able not to have a care in the world for a few days and to just enjoy the sea breeze. Luckily, it’s the summer holiday now but I fear that I’m going to spend all my time on the internet so my aim for this summer is to spend as little time on tech this season.

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One day when it was a little more cloudier, we paddled in the sea and because we both love to climb and explore we found the East Cliff and decided to climb it. We gradually got higher and found a mini cave and a big rock that we both could sit on. We sat there, watched the waves crash, the seagulls fly around and we listened to our music. It was a nice, relaxed afternoon and once again these are the kind of moments in life you want to cherish and remember forever because these are the little things in life that can mean so much and benefit us in many ways.

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We spent one evening playing mini golf, which was good fun. The courses we played were ‘Adventure Golf’ and the classic ‘Crazy Golf’. The evening was well spent and after all we got to practise our golf skills. I did manage to putt a hole-in-one twice and I was very proud of myself!

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Another day, we spent it doing a little bit of shopping, sipping slushies on the beach, enjoying the sun, playing more golf and just relaxing on the beach. It was a good day and I hope that everyone can experience these kind of days during the holidays because it’s something you can’t miss and it is always good to have an easy day and chill with your best friend.

I hope you enjoyed this blog and I apologise for the delay. I hope you all enjoy your summer holidays and spend your days well. Thanks for reading xoxo

Does Everybody Deserve a Second Chance?

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I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “Everybody deserves a second chance” but nowadays people are being lied to more often and forgiven easily (well, that’s what I’ve been seeing). It’s disappointing to find out that someone lies to you especially a family member or close friends, even though we are lied to just to be protected, doesn’t mean we are still feeling “loved” because keeping secrets from someone shows that you aren’t protecting them, you are lying to them no matter how big or little the secret is.

Giving a second chance to someone really depends on the situation and how the person feels, for example if you’ve had an argument with your best friend because you were talking behind their back, depending how close you two were, the trust you both had in each other is probably is what is helping them to consider giving you a second chance. They are probably thinking about what you have been through together, the highs and lows. Based on that they are probably having a tough time, choosing because they don’t want to be betrayed on again or taken advantage of. No one wants their friend to take advantage of them, if you have been through it then you know how hard it is, don’t let other people around you experience that.

In the adult world, giving a second chance to a partner after cheating or an employee after messing up at work is something different. In order to give your partner a second chance takes a lot of courage and shows that you trust the person enough to take them back but remember not everyone uses these chances wisely. There are people in this world that will use you but these people can help you grow and you can become stronger as a person. They will be people who’ll shape you into the person you will become, in the end you might actually be thankful for them because they were the ones who opened your eyes to realise the bad in the world.

If you have done something wrong and if you are lucky enough to get a second chance, do not waste it. I repeat, DO NOT WASTE IT. Second chances are rarely given and they are so precious, you cannot waste them, trust is already damaged you don’t want to ruin your relationship, friendship, partnership etc. Second chances give you an opportunity to prove yourself to someone, that you aren’t a bad person, you can be trusted and that you are responsible person. “A second chance doesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learnt from your first mistake”. 

I hope you enjoyed this week’s blog and remember to cherish every second chance you get in life. Thanks for reading xoxo

 

What Is The Meaning of Life?

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This is a very popular question and there are so many different answers to this question. A lot of teens ask this when considering suicide but you shouldn’t question whether your life is worth living because although it is full of ups and downs, there are so many different opportunities to experience, things to discover and to learn about everything around you. Everyone has their own answer to this question but each and every one of us want to achieve different things in life.

In order to find out the meaning of YOUR life, think about what keeps you going and what makes your life worth living because without that person or people, object or whatever it is, you won’t enjoy your life as it is. If you are a religious person, then your religion might be your answer. Perhaps you want to achieve something important to your religion in your life to prove you are a strong and committed believer. Think about your whereabouts, your friends and family around you, they might be the ones that contribute to the meaning of your life. When you go searching for the meaning of your life, you aren’t looking for the significance, you are just blind because you aren’t aware of what is the true value. “By searching for the meaning of your life, it is more likely that it’ll be harder to find your answer but when you embrace life, the answer will come to you.” (Another awesome quote I just made up!)

Personally, my meaning of life is… to chase my dreams and do more of what makes me happy, make a difference to the world and become noticed for something helpful that I have or will do. I want to learn about this world, all the different cultures, experience different and new things that I would never try and hopefully do this with a group of close friends. I want to become the best possible version of me and to do something that’ll make me proud to be me. Seeking happiness and just simply enjoying life is another big thing I want to accomplish. As you can see there are so many things that mean to me and what I want to find out in my life is the answer to this question, “What is the meaning of life?”

I understand that everyone will have different things, they want to accomplish and particular things they want to experience or do but no matter how diverse everyone’s views and meanings are, we all want to achieve and do something with our lives. Even if you don’t know, what you want to do now or what the meaning of your life is yet, no matter how old or young you are, one day you’ll realise what it is you want to achieve and to become as a person.

I hope you enjoyed this week’s blog and eventually find out what you want to do. Thanks for reading xoxo

Frenemies

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Have you ever been in a situation with a ‘friend’ and ever thought if they are actually your friend? I know I have and to be honest it’s hard to tell if they are your friend or not because usually the person has done this more than once and is a master at it. In your life you are going to come across at least one frenemy and I am telling you now, prepare for bitchiness, back stabbing and rumours. You can defeat this ‘friend’ as long as you stay strong, do and say nothing bad about anyone and have a good group of friends supporting you because they are going to be the people that’ll keep you fighting.

At first you probably won’t be able to tell if someone is your friend or foe but there are slight giveaways that will alert you. One of the main ones is when something good happens to you e.g. winning an award for something they will snigger at you or roll their eyes when you start to talk about it. This should be easy to recognise if this consistently happens so look out for this because this is one of the biggest giveaways. Also another clue is when they gossip about you to your other friends, if you have one particular friend that you know you can trust ask them to listen out for what the other person says. I know it sounds a bit odd but you don’t want someone to talk about you behind your back and after all you want to know they truth to sort it all out. You should confront them and if they lie to your face then you know that the aren’t your true friend.

Once you have stood up to them, their behaviour might have rubbed onto you a little and you might not be aware of it but you might be turning into them a little but if you honestly can’t tell yourself that you have changed then get one of your friends to tell you because if you don’t change soon then it could get worse and you don’t want to turn into a backstabbing friend. If you have changed then try to go back to your old self, it’s for the best and it could affect your friendship group.

After a while if you feel like confronting your frenemy was a bad idea then don’t regret it because if you didn’t do it then you would still have to live with their nasty side comments and not being able to be confident within your friendship group because you were afraid that they would take the mick out of you. You shouldn’t regret anything you do, as long as you do it for your benefits and you feel the decision is sensible and you are comfortable with it then who cares of what other people think.

I don’t really understand why people do this, they don’t get any reward out of it and it just creates a bad image of them. The only reason I can think of is that they get satisfaction from it but it is definitely not a good type of satisfaction, if someone enjoys degrading someone with their comments and making them feel unsure about themselves then I don’t know what type of person they are because personally why would anyone want to do that. If you dislike someone then tell them to their face because if you don’t it just creates rumours and arguments, if you cannot tell that person face to face then it shows that you aren’t a very strong or confident person within yourself and it proves that you should keep your thoughts to yourself. Once you have spoken to them you have to stick by your words because denying them will just make you look like less of a person. This saying is true, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, I wish more people would stick to this because this would help avoid a lot of arguments and rumours being spread.

I hope you enjoyed today’s blog and that you can find those frenemies in your group. Next week I’ll be doing a Q&A so you can tweet me @CestLaVie_Blog, write on my Facebook page or comment down below! Thanks for reading xoxo