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I think that it is important that we all broaden our horizons a little bit, and what a better way to do that than to meet new people and make friends. I think this is because our society is surrounded by so much technology, we forget that we have lacked in the socialising department. We do use a lot of social media sites but what I think that counts is communicating face to face. Not only is it better to spend time with each other face to face, but you also are getting away from technology and creating memories with people that you’ll never forget.

I know that it can be hard to be apart from your laptop, phone etc but it is good for you to spend free time from it and one of the best ways to do this is to meet new people, make friends, explore your town/city etc. We all live in oblivion. We have forgotten that other humans do exist in the real world and that we can meet them in person and actually communicate with them.

If you do go to clubs with other people that have the same common interests as you then you can always start a conversation with them, you’ll never know where you and that person could end up. Approaching people is definitely a confidence booster, as soon as you know you can approach someone and start a conversation with them, you’ll gradually become more confident within yourself. Meeting new people is fun especially if done in an environment you enjoy. One important thing to remember when meeting new people, you shouldn’t be too forceful or have high expectations of them. You two or possible more are gradually getting to know each other and it’s important to show that you can respect them and their decisions when getting to know each other.

A lot of friendships and meeting new people is done over the internet. Some people find it easier to communicate over the internet. I suppose if you or the other person/people are nervous, anxious etc, it might be best to start talking to each other online so that you can kick start your relationship feeling a little more confident than you rather would in person. It is important to meet people in person but I think another way to maintain your friendship when not together would be by using social media. There are pros and cons to using the internet but it is a great way to support each other if you aren’t there with them, to make plans etc. The danger though is when you only talk to each other via social media. It wouldn’t be a healthy relationship, if you two wouldn’t be able to spend time together in the real world. It can be hard to pluck the courage to talk to one another if you are used to talking to each other by text etc. It is important to know that your friendship isn’t going to end up anywhere if neither of you talk to one another, once you do you’ll feel more relaxed and comfortable around them. It only gets better from that moment.

I hope that you all experience something new and great everyday of your life. Life is all about learning and living through wonderful moments with different people by your side. Cherish all the people around you and your future family and friends.

Thanks for reading

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One Year of Blogging!

Yesterday was the one year anniversary of this blog! I can’t believe that I have been able to continuously write here for such a long period. This won’t be like my usual long blog, this is just one to simply to say thank you if you have followed this blog, liked or even just read one of my posts. It truly means a lot and I can’t wait to see the many journeys I’ll take while writing here for another year.

Thanks you for reading and your continuous support

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Peer Pressure

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I apologise for not writing my blog last week, I had an unexpected shift at work but no need to dwell on that. Today I have chosen to write about peer pressure as this was previously brought up earlier in the week and I think this is a reason as to why teens choose to do what they do.

Most teens are peer pressured to do something or try something new, in some cases the person being pressured wants to try whatever they are being pressured into and sometimes use the pressure as an excuse. Friends can sometimes encourage you to do bad things like smoke, drink, commit crimes etc. If your friends do pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable then you should know when to tell them to stop and perhaps you shouldn’t talk to them anymore. If they push your boundaries and don’t  know when to stop, then you should tell them and put them in their place. No one should ever make you feel awkward or uncomfortable in a situation especially a friend. You know where the line is and if it’s necessary, you should have to tell them.

Occasionally, people will give into peer pressure because they want to fit in with everyone else. Some people think being different is bad and that we should all be the same but that makes life boring. Another reason why people may give in is because people are afraid to lose their friends. If they were your real friends, they would respect and understand when they have crossed the line. You shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed to say no. You don’t have to be in a situation where you feel awkward, everyone has limits whether they are stronger than others, no one’s self respect should be taken away. “Good friends will respect your individuality”. 

The media can sometimes also affect peer pressure. More and more things are becoming acceptable in magazines, on the TV etc, women and men’s bodies are being exposed more. I think because of this, teens think it is okay to push people to their limits and beyond. They don’t realise how people feel and think about the exposure and abuse towards teens because of the media, people don’t realise how much of an effect it has on this generation.

Your friends can teach you a lot about yourself, they help you develop and learn more things about you that you may not have known without their help. Friends can help you, support and motivate you to succeed with anything in life. However, some friends can influence you to do bad things because of peer pressure.

I hope today’s blog was an interesting read for you.

Thanks for reading

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Back To School Tips!

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Hello, I am back from my holiday. I hope you didn’t miss my blogs but if you did then don’t worry now. If any of you would like to read about my holiday then please just comment letting me know. Anyway… I thought back to school tips would be appropriate for this time of the year because it’s when everyone goes back to school and I had my first day too! Hope you enjoy my tips and find them useful!

1. Starting isn’t as scary as it sounds- if you are starting high school, secondary school or any other, don’t worry about it. You probably hear all the adults assuring you that it will be alright and I don’t mean to repeat but they are right. Everyone seems to overthink about and hear other people say it’s terrible etc, but I can reassure you that I have experienced it thinking that it was going to be bad but in actually fact it wasn’t. You might think there are strict teachers, tons of homework, you’ll make no friends BUT if you stick to the teacher’s rules, get your homework done as soon as you get it and try to socialise you will be fine. A year or so, you’ll wonder why you worried in the first place.

2. Get to know the school grounds- I don’t know about any other countries in the world but I know in England when you move up to secondary school, a few weeks before the summer holidays you spend a day at your upcoming school to get used to the new school and get to know it. This is a great idea because some people worry about getting lost but by visiting your school beforehand you get to know the area. If other countries don’t do this the they should.

3. Be organised- one of the worst things is to wake up and not have enough equipment, an unpacked bag, no outfit/uniform prepared or a lost trainer. Get all you school notebooks, notepads, folders, pencils etc a few weeks before school because you’ll spend your whole summer doing something and completely forget about. As for packing your bag, getting your outfit and sports bag ready do that the night before so you can sleep the night peacefully knowing that you are prepared and ready for school.

4. The old saying- “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” Although, some doctors might debate about this, having breakfast before school is especially important as you will be more alert and perform better in class. Food will keep your energy up and help you get through the long day of school.

5. Get enough sleep- teens need at least eight and a half hours of sleep each night to feel rested and to avoid sleep deprivation. Studies show that getting the right amount of sleep before a maths test were three times more likely to get a higher grade than those who stayed up all night.

I hope that these tips help you and whenever you start school or already have, good luck with any future tests and remember to study for the results you want! Thanks for reading xoxo

Maintaining Friendships

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If only friendships could last like ones in films, they live next door and you spend hours together on a hot summers day in each others garden BUT we don’t live in a film world. Maintaining friendships especially during life changing events like moving house or changing classes in the new school year etc. It’s not easy, it isn’t uncommon to grow apart from your friends at this age and as you get older it becomes harder to make new friends. I’m going to give you five steps to maintaining old time friendships:

1. Communicate- Remember ‘SPE’ See Phone Email, social media can make you feel like you’re in touch with your friend more than you actually are with them. You should work hard to try to see the person whenever you can, if they don’t live near you then phone them rather than email. It will show them that you’re serious about this relationship and it allows for longer intimate conversations.

2. Send ‘You’ Greetings- Once you call them, you might feel there is an awkward silence and you don’t know how to break the ice. Send a ‘you’ greeting by asking how they are and remember to throw in a few compliments.

3. Don’t be too hard on your friend- One common thing you might notice now is that after you have been talking for a little while, is that you two have a little bit less in common but this is completely natural. Sometimes you and your friend will just drift apart, people change a lot in this time of their life now that doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends with someone, just try not to focus on your differences. Focus on your shared experiences and above all cut them some slack, think about the person you were when you first met them. You’ve changed, why can’t they?

4. Take advantage of big events- reunions, birthdays if you rarely get a chance to see your friend, these events can be perfect opportunities to reconnect and catch up with them also try to celebrate without any awkwardness, make it obvious to them and invite them to any other large gathering.

5. Have fun together- do something with your friend that you wouldn’t usually do or just hang out together when you both have homework because it will make it so much fun. You could do this once a week, it’ll broaden your conversations with them, you’ll have so many more great experiences with them and it’ll feel so rewarding for you that you two can still have fun even if you’re aren’t as close as you were before.

Now things in life don’t always go to plan and it could go wrong, maybe you two weren’t meant to be? I hope this does work for you though and don’t worry and remember everything does happen for a reason. If they don’t work out then just remember about all the great things you did together and treasure those memories for life.

I hope you found this blog helpful and that things in life don’t always go to plan, you just have to accept it and move on. If you do try it and let me know how you got on in the comments, good luck! Thanks for reading xoxo