How To Survive Secondary School/High School

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 Whether you have been to secondary school/high school yet or not, you could use these tips for yourself or pass them onto younger siblings etc. Depending which country you live in, the school system will be different to other countries. Secondary school and high school usually consist of pre-teens and mid-teens. Without further ado, I shall commence with the school tips.

Making friends:

It might sound harder than you think but by simply talking to people in your classes and form and by giving off the right first impression, you should be able to make more friends by doing this. Another good way is to join a club in or outside of school which leads me onto my next point.

Joining clubs:

You don’t have to attend a club in school but a positive to joining one in school is that you’ll meet more people in your class or year and hopefully build a friendship with them. Another good thing when joining a club is that it is an extra skill for you which could help with your school work. It can also be something to put on your CV when applying for a job.

Don’t make enemies:

Enemies aren’t good in any situation of life but especially during your school life through your teens. Holding grudges against people is only an extra weight for you to drag along with you everyday. It’s best not to have any enemies because you don’t know when they’ll spring back on you. As long as you are fair, kind, considerate, loyal and honest with all your friends and people around you, you shouldn’t have any problems with anyone.

Participating in lessons:

Putting your hand up or volunteering in class can sometimes be a little embarrassing but there is no harm in trying. Despite whether you get the answer right or wrong, you will learn from what you do. It may even help you when revising that topic because you can back track to that memory from when you were in class. As you start to volunteer more in class, it will also boost your confidence and give your teacher a good impression that you are a hard working student.

Stay on top of your homework:

You may not enjoy it or want to do it, but the quicker you get it done, the better it will be for you and you’ll also be able to relax and enjoy the rest of evening or weekend! You won’t have any teachers constantly on your back or giving you detentions, make it easier for yourself and get it all done.

Don’t rush with people:

When making new friends, you don’t want to rush the person into a friendship with you because you may not get to know each other as well. It’s important to give them time and to give yourself time, it’s best to slowly build your friendship up rather than to rush into something that might not have a happy ending. Don’t put pressure onto them as you wouldn’t want them to put pressure onto you.

I may create another post similar to this if I’m able to think of more tips and tricks. I hope you enjoyed this blog and that you have a good week!

Thanks for reading

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Send Friend Request?

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I think that it is important that we all broaden our horizons a little bit, and what a better way to do that than to meet new people and make friends. I think this is because our society is surrounded by so much technology, we forget that we have lacked in the socialising department. We do use a lot of social media sites but what I think that counts is communicating face to face. Not only is it better to spend time with each other face to face, but you also are getting away from technology and creating memories with people that you’ll never forget.

I know that it can be hard to be apart from your laptop, phone etc but it is good for you to spend free time from it and one of the best ways to do this is to meet new people, make friends, explore your town/city etc. We all live in oblivion. We have forgotten that other humans do exist in the real world and that we can meet them in person and actually communicate with them.

If you do go to clubs with other people that have the same common interests as you then you can always start a conversation with them, you’ll never know where you and that person could end up. Approaching people is definitely a confidence booster, as soon as you know you can approach someone and start a conversation with them, you’ll gradually become more confident within yourself. Meeting new people is fun especially if done in an environment you enjoy. One important thing to remember when meeting new people, you shouldn’t be too forceful or have high expectations of them. You two or possible more are gradually getting to know each other and it’s important to show that you can respect them and their decisions when getting to know each other.

A lot of friendships and meeting new people is done over the internet. Some people find it easier to communicate over the internet. I suppose if you or the other person/people are nervous, anxious etc, it might be best to start talking to each other online so that you can kick start your relationship feeling a little more confident than you rather would in person. It is important to meet people in person but I think another way to maintain your friendship when not together would be by using social media. There are pros and cons to using the internet but it is a great way to support each other if you aren’t there with them, to make plans etc. The danger though is when you only talk to each other via social media. It wouldn’t be a healthy relationship, if you two wouldn’t be able to spend time together in the real world. It can be hard to pluck the courage to talk to one another if you are used to talking to each other by text etc. It is important to know that your friendship isn’t going to end up anywhere if neither of you talk to one another, once you do you’ll feel more relaxed and comfortable around them. It only gets better from that moment.

I hope that you all experience something new and great everyday of your life. Life is all about learning and living through wonderful moments with different people by your side. Cherish all the people around you and your future family and friends.

Thanks for reading

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Peer Pressure

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I apologise for not writing my blog last week, I had an unexpected shift at work but no need to dwell on that. Today I have chosen to write about peer pressure as this was previously brought up earlier in the week and I think this is a reason as to why teens choose to do what they do.

Most teens are peer pressured to do something or try something new, in some cases the person being pressured wants to try whatever they are being pressured into and sometimes use the pressure as an excuse. Friends can sometimes encourage you to do bad things like smoke, drink, commit crimes etc. If your friends do pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable then you should know when to tell them to stop and perhaps you shouldn’t talk to them anymore. If they push your boundaries and don’t  know when to stop, then you should tell them and put them in their place. No one should ever make you feel awkward or uncomfortable in a situation especially a friend. You know where the line is and if it’s necessary, you should have to tell them.

Occasionally, people will give into peer pressure because they want to fit in with everyone else. Some people think being different is bad and that we should all be the same but that makes life boring. Another reason why people may give in is because people are afraid to lose their friends. If they were your real friends, they would respect and understand when they have crossed the line. You shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed to say no. You don’t have to be in a situation where you feel awkward, everyone has limits whether they are stronger than others, no one’s self respect should be taken away. “Good friends will respect your individuality”. 

The media can sometimes also affect peer pressure. More and more things are becoming acceptable in magazines, on the TV etc, women and men’s bodies are being exposed more. I think because of this, teens think it is okay to push people to their limits and beyond. They don’t realise how people feel and think about the exposure and abuse towards teens because of the media, people don’t realise how much of an effect it has on this generation.

Your friends can teach you a lot about yourself, they help you develop and learn more things about you that you may not have known without their help. Friends can help you, support and motivate you to succeed with anything in life. However, some friends can influence you to do bad things because of peer pressure.

I hope today’s blog was an interesting read for you.

Thanks for reading

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Should We Fight For Our Beliefs?

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As I attend a school full of pre-teens and teenagers, a lot of them are insecure about stating their passions because they may not have enough self-confidence to stand up for their beliefs. Occasionally I pass by a group of people, I often overhear someone’s opinion being put down; someone else in their group is discriminating against their opinion. Unfortunately, a small fraction actually stand up for their belief. Hopefully today I can inspire you or help you to gain confidence to not be ashamed or what you like.

If the topic of something you are passionate about comes up in a conversation between you and a group of friends or people you have just met, you should make it obvious that you like the topic whether it be religion, music or something else. I also think standing up for your beliefs shows that you are a strong capable character who is not afraid to speak out above the others. Before you get to expressing your interests, you must have a good confidence because it is hard to talk about what you love in front of others.

I don’t know how it came to me but some stage in my life recently, it got to point where I didn’t care about what others thought of me. I think it takes something big to give you that extra push to not caring about what others think. I’m not sure how this situation occurred but it eventually happened; I’m glad that I can openly talk about what I love and not give a damn about what other people think. I might sound up myself but I’m not, there are also other positives when standing up for your beliefs. I think it is a valuable quality especially if you are in the right workplace because it shows that you are a passionate person who can fight for their beliefs. It also shows that you are strong and that you have confidence.

It is important not to get to cocky and don’t forget that other people will have different opinions to you, it also takes a mature person to accept other people’s view and to take them into consideration. Keep going and stand up for your beliefs because who will? “Be a lover not fighter, but always fight for what you love.” 

I hope that you are feeling a little more inspired or confident even if you don’t I hope that you take this into consideration and that this has had a positive outlook for you. Thanks for reading xoxo

 

High Expectations

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Don’t you hate when people always have high expectations of you? In school, if you put an effort in your homework, they expect top notch classwork or your parents expect good grades but maybe that term wasn’t the greatest one for you. You always feel like you have a big weight on your shoulders and that you have to work hard to pass someone’s expectations, this also causes stress and stress makes everything even worse. Sometimes you just have to let it go, stop and realise maybe you should bring the expectation to something more realistic so you can work towards it and feel more confident about reaching it.

I’m pretty sure at everyone’s secondary school, middle school and high school you learn about drugs, alcohol, smoking, underage pregnancies and more, all the teachers think that teaching us this all the time will help us realise how bad it is. We already know the effects, how to prevent it etc but do they really think that always mentioning it will help and reduce everyone from doing one of these things. Teaching us more and more about it, will make us want to do it more because it encourages us to and it makes it seem more cool and everyone thinks looks good as well, it doesn’t set a very nice first impression of you. I also think that the society nowadays is also encouraging teens to smoke, commit crimes because celebrities are going to rehab, going to prison. More and more teenagers are getting involved in crimes, smoking drugs etc.

Parents are also expecting big things from us, good grades in school and all As. It’s really annoying when you come home with your school report and the results aren’t as good as you hoped and you can just tell by the look of your parent’s face but other times when it’s good, you feel you have really achieved and exceeded in the world and you feel as you can do anything. Some parents give an award for getting good grades, which I think is great because that means more teenagers will be trying harder, some of my friends get iPods or a new phone for getting good grades. Especially at this age we need to be studying more and harder.

It’s a shame when people have high expectations for you because you don’t want to be judged by them and they then have low expectations of you and that makes people judge you and it just stress you out. Lots of people have high expectations in relationships because of romance films but they aren’t living in reality, life isn’t perfect like in the films so don’t judge and build you’re life like a film because it won’t work like that. Your life isn’t a movie so don’t base it around one, your life will fall into place and you won’t even have to worry about anything.

If you have no expectations then there’ll be no disappointments, don’t expect too much out of people because you’ll be disappointed with the outcome. Expectations are stretched too far which isn’t good, so just step by step and it’ll be okay. Make sure that the people or person who is expecting something from you knows that you want to take small paces, explain to them and they’ll understand if they really care. If you push yourself too hard, something bad could happen, so just take work easy. “Expectation is the root of all heartache”- William Shakespeare

I hope you enjoyed reading this blog and that you could relate to some of this. Thanks for reading xoxo