How To Survive Secondary School/High School

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 Whether you have been to secondary school/high school yet or not, you could use these tips for yourself or pass them onto younger siblings etc. Depending which country you live in, the school system will be different to other countries. Secondary school and high school usually consist of pre-teens and mid-teens. Without further ado, I shall commence with the school tips.

Making friends:

It might sound harder than you think but by simply talking to people in your classes and form and by giving off the right first impression, you should be able to make more friends by doing this. Another good way is to join a club in or outside of school which leads me onto my next point.

Joining clubs:

You don’t have to attend a club in school but a positive to joining one in school is that you’ll meet more people in your class or year and hopefully build a friendship with them. Another good thing when joining a club is that it is an extra skill for you which could help with your school work. It can also be something to put on your CV when applying for a job.

Don’t make enemies:

Enemies aren’t good in any situation of life but especially during your school life through your teens. Holding grudges against people is only an extra weight for you to drag along with you everyday. It’s best not to have any enemies because you don’t know when they’ll spring back on you. As long as you are fair, kind, considerate, loyal and honest with all your friends and people around you, you shouldn’t have any problems with anyone.

Participating in lessons:

Putting your hand up or volunteering in class can sometimes be a little embarrassing but there is no harm in trying. Despite whether you get the answer right or wrong, you will learn from what you do. It may even help you when revising that topic because you can back track to that memory from when you were in class. As you start to volunteer more in class, it will also boost your confidence and give your teacher a good impression that you are a hard working student.

Stay on top of your homework:

You may not enjoy it or want to do it, but the quicker you get it done, the better it will be for you and you’ll also be able to relax and enjoy the rest of evening or weekend! You won’t have any teachers constantly on your back or giving you detentions, make it easier for yourself and get it all done.

Don’t rush with people:

When making new friends, you don’t want to rush the person into a friendship with you because you may not get to know each other as well. It’s important to give them time and to give yourself time, it’s best to slowly build your friendship up rather than to rush into something that might not have a happy ending. Don’t put pressure onto them as you wouldn’t want them to put pressure onto you.

I may create another post similar to this if I’m able to think of more tips and tricks. I hope you enjoyed this blog and that you have a good week!

Thanks for reading

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People Are People

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People’s sexuality are still challenged to this day, I don’t think you will ever be able to find a person that is satisfied with everyone’s chosen sexuality. As the world has become more accepting of different sexualities across all nations, more and more people seem to have different sexual orientations e.g. lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender. There are so many more varieties of people’s sexual preferences and it amazes me that so many alternative things could be thought of. Everyone has different tastes to one another which is what a lot of homophobic people must learn, understand and appreciate.

“Love knows no limits”. Love doesn’t need to be controlled by the law. I think that as long as whatever relationship you are in with another person, whether male or female, as long as you two are happy and have a healthy relationship together, there is no reason as to why people should be against it. Gay or straight, everybody deserves to be happy. We are all humans, meaning that we are entitled to our human rights. “Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status.” There is more to this article but I would like to point out that everyone is entitled to their own rights and freedoms, the list shows what we as the human race are entitled to, homophobic people shouldn’t take that right away from anyone. In fact, no human should be allowed to invade anyone else’s rights. LGBT rights are human rights too. Marriage is also a human right, “men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family.” Why should the law be different for a gay, lesbian, bisexual etc person, we are all equal humans. Aren’t we?

I’m not gay but I do support gay rights because I believe in freedom of love. I believe that just because someone else prefers something different to us then why should they be discriminated against. We all have our different opinions on other things in life so why should sexuality be just a big argument, their choices aren’t harming you or causing you any distress. They shouldn’t be pressured by society and the media because they have a different view on something.

Unfortunately, same sex marriage still isn’t legal everywhere in the world, but people are continuously fighting for that fight and I hope that one day, people will be able to live in a world where everyone is equal.

I hope that this may have given you a different perspective on gay rights and that maybe you’ll perhaps think about other people’s sexuality and that you shouldn’t judge them.

Thanks for reading

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One Year of Blogging!

Yesterday was the one year anniversary of this blog! I can’t believe that I have been able to continuously write here for such a long period. This won’t be like my usual long blog, this is just one to simply to say thank you if you have followed this blog, liked or even just read one of my posts. It truly means a lot and I can’t wait to see the many journeys I’ll take while writing here for another year.

Thanks you for reading and your continuous support

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“Never Grow Up”

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 It has recently occurred to me that in less of a year’s time, I will have made so pretty big choices for my education and maybe even my life. I haven’t thought about what will happen in the future and it has suddenly hit me that I’m going to have to keep making important decisions from now on.

I already have two jobs at this age, I think as for someone my age that I have taken quite a lot of responsibility as well as school work. I am working for myself to earn money, who ever is reading this whether you’ve had a job yet or not, whenever it comes to getting paid. I get this little hit of satisfaction that I have maintained to fulfil my job. I feel as if I am maturing everyday when I take on the responsibility to work. Later on in the year, I will have completed work experience. In case, you don’t know it is when you apply to work at a business or anywhere that’ll accept you to work for a week to two. This is a taster of what having a job would actually be like and it can be put on your CV, which shows that you have had experience in a job environment.

A lot of exams will be coming up, a lot of care and practice has been going into them but on that one day it’ll come to the time where I am faced with the test paper and a limited amount of time to prove my intelligence. Growing up into the real world is happening all too quickly…

Today was a bit of eye opener, I hope you realise that you should cherish your time and waste your time while you’re young, free and able to do anything.

Thanks for reading

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Feminism is for Everyone.

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A lot people don’t quite understand feminism. They think that it is when women over power, this isn’t the case. Feminism is when both men and women fight for equality rights. Some people say that women now have too many rights, in some parts of the world and still in more developed countries women aren’t being treated with the same rights as men.

Many famous women have spoken out for this gender. However, sexism is still present within the 21st century. At a young age, society teaches children how girls and boys should look and how they should act. We are taught at a young age that girls should wear dresses, make up, like fancy shoes etc. Boys are also taught that they must be strong, “manly”, that they shouldn’t  show their feelings or cry otherwise they won’t be manly enough.

Some expressions that I really hate are “you throw like a girl” or “just because you’re a girl”. So many guys use these, it really annoys me and it just encourages me even more to prove them wrong and that I as a girl can do something to a good standard and beat them at something. They don’t realise what it does to a girl’s mind. Society shows girls are only good for cooking, housework, sleeping with men etc. It sickens me that even now in this day and age, this still hasn’t been sorted out.

All over media, women are shown and often used as sex objects. They are shown that they have no feelings or emotions and that we have less power than a male in a relationship. There are many strong women in this world who have shown and proven that we can do something and achieve something for ourselves. The media shows that women should be slim, tall, be a certain weight etc. However, media has changed and now tells us that having curves is beautiful. What every little girl and boy should be taught at a young age is that any body size or shape is amazing and that their’s is too.

Gradually, women are getting the equality we want and deserve. I sometimes wonder why are we treated differently, so many women in the past have shown we are just as capable as men. During the Second World War, while men were out fighting, women were left at home to look after the houses, cook for a family, clean a house, work at factories, farms and to keep their country on it’s two feet. We are strong and capable. Even young women have shown that we are. Malala Yousafzai fought for women’s right to an education in Pakistan, she was unfortunately shoot by the Taliban but she luckily managed to recover from her wound and she still pursues her beliefs out women’s rights.

Society tells boys that they shouldn’t hit a girl back. Abusing anyone is not right. Hitting girls isn’t fair because we are “weak” but we are just as capable and strong as boys. Being tough, doesn’t make you any less of a woman. All stereotypes should be erased, they are a false perspective of a person or a group of people.

Feminism isn’t female supremacy, feminism is female equality in all aspects of our lives.

I hope you have understood the small section of what it is like to be a girl and can hopefully understand why we fight for equality.

Thanks for reading

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The True Meaning Of Christmas?

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I thought that this was the right time to write about something like this. Before, I begin whatever I may say that what I think the true meaning of Christmas means doesn’t mean that I’m right everyone will have a different opinion to me maybe because of religion or just even personal thoughts. Despite what I think Christmas means, I do not mean to imply that my interpretation is correct. Everyone has their own opinion and is entitled to one.

Occasionally, around this time of year, you often hear people usually older generations saying that we do not know the true meaning of Christmas but we all have different ideas of what Christmas should be like. Technology is often used an excuse, I can guarantee that at least one person in each household would receive a gadget. Most children care more about the presents rather than anything else but as we grow up we realise what it was like to be a child during Christmas. It was amazing, the excitement of Santa, his reindeer etc. As you grow up, reality kicks in and you start to lose interest. This might not be necessarily true for everyone but for some it may. During Christmas, children grow up thinking about the presents, what they’ll get, whose present is better than whose. We can’t always blame the children though, society and media is evolving quickly. Material items are being portrayed to be more important rather than family, friends, memories etc. As a result of this, children do start to forget the true meaning of Christmas.

It is a different story if you are religious, for Christians I know that the birth of Jesus is why we celebrate this holiday but for other religions e.g. Judaism I am not 100% sure of the meaning of Hanukkah (apologies if I have misspelled). When I was younger, I remember being taught that presents weren’t why Christmas was important but that Jesus, our loved ones etc were the reason. I guess as you grow up you start to realise the true meaning of all of this. No matter what you believe in, we all have an idea of what Christmas, Hanukkah, Eid etc should be like.

As I have matured, I think Christmas means when you come to realise all the things you have and to be grateful and appreciate what you have rather than what you don’t. To cherish all your family and friends as others may not be able to do so.

I hope you enjoyed this blog, thank you to all my readers and I hope you have a great time celebrating whatever festivity you celebrate and have a happy new year!

Before I go, I am going on holiday from tomorrow, I may not be able to post until the week of January the 5th. If I’m not able to write, I will write a huge blog about my holiday!

Thanks for reading

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Arguments

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We’ve all had arguments at some point in our lives whether it be a small one or a big one, that may have impacted our lives now. Whatever they are about, there is also a consequence.  Whenever two people or a group of people have different opinions about something, occasionally it can turn into a debate. Whether it is a calm or violent one is the difference.

Some people tend to lose their temper when their opinion isn’t validated which can sometimes cause swearing and possibly other actions. Although because the person cannot keep control at the time of the situation, they tend to regret their actions. Arguments can happen anywhere, anytime and with anyone. Unfortunately, a lot of people have arguments about things for example there has been a lot of disagreements about gay marriage but I won’t go into depth with that topic.

I have witnessed arguments; the main cause of them is bitching. If you’re a girl, then you will understand. I don’t know why girls talk about each other behind each other’s backs but it just seems to come naturally. We begin judging others at a young age, mostly because of jealousy. Unfortunately, many of us girls do find it hard to not have an argument but I prefer not to start anything because I think that arguments are pointless and just results with you having more enemies.

I don’t know what the situation is like with boys when they have arguments but what I have seen is that the boys have a fight and that is the end of it. Sometimes, I wish girls could get things over and done like this, you also get to realise all your anger too. I’m assuming boys would argue over something like who’s the best football team or other sport team, a girl that everyone wants to go out with or if someone has been bad mouthing their family. You may not think it but I’ve seen that when someone one boy insults another boy’s family, they do get easily annoyed. Most of the time, the guy being offended will punch etc the other person.

Debates can sometimes be constructed in a sensible manner. In some particular school subjects, we have debates for example we had one about whether capital punishment should be illegal or legal? When we have debates about topics like this, we are split into two sides (for or against the statement). Each side has a turn to make a point that they think is important, it can get frustrating when you disagree with the opposing side because you cannot scream or shout at them as we may in other arguments.

Hopefully, today’s blog has made you seen arguments in a different light. Next Wednesday is Christmas Eve so I’ll be writing a Christmas Special!

Thanks for reading

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