People Are People

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People’s sexuality are still challenged to this day, I don’t think you will ever be able to find a person that is satisfied with everyone’s chosen sexuality. As the world has become more accepting of different sexualities across all nations, more and more people seem to have different sexual orientations e.g. lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender. There are so many more varieties of people’s sexual preferences and it amazes me that so many alternative things could be thought of. Everyone has different tastes to one another which is what a lot of homophobic people must learn, understand and appreciate.

“Love knows no limits”. Love doesn’t need to be controlled by the law. I think that as long as whatever relationship you are in with another person, whether male or female, as long as you two are happy and have a healthy relationship together, there is no reason as to why people should be against it. Gay or straight, everybody deserves to be happy. We are all humans, meaning that we are entitled to our human rights. “Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status.” There is more to this article but I would like to point out that everyone is entitled to their own rights and freedoms, the list shows what we as the human race are entitled to, homophobic people shouldn’t take that right away from anyone. In fact, no human should be allowed to invade anyone else’s rights. LGBT rights are human rights too. Marriage is also a human right, “men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family.” Why should the law be different for a gay, lesbian, bisexual etc person, we are all equal humans. Aren’t we?

I’m not gay but I do support gay rights because I believe in freedom of love. I believe that just because someone else prefers something different to us then why should they be discriminated against. We all have our different opinions on other things in life so why should sexuality be just a big argument, their choices aren’t harming you or causing you any distress. They shouldn’t be pressured by society and the media because they have a different view on something.

Unfortunately, same sex marriage still isn’t legal everywhere in the world, but people are continuously fighting for that fight and I hope that one day, people will be able to live in a world where everyone is equal.

I hope that this may have given you a different perspective on gay rights and that maybe you’ll perhaps think about other people’s sexuality and that you shouldn’t judge them.

Thanks for reading

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What I Love…

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I thought I’d write about some of my personal interests if any of you wanted to know a little more about me and if not then oh well! If any of the things that I like and you don’t then that is fine because you are entitled to your own opinion but if you like some things that I do then great! I’m going to include the everyday things that I love like food, moments in life, music and more. Here I commence and enjoy!

Music- If you have read my previous blog (if not, you should check it out after this) then you’ll know that my music taste is rock but there is a little twist I do also like 5SOS which I’m sure most of you have heard of. Rock songs have so many different stories and meanings behind them, I can guarantee whatever rock song you find on YouTube will have a meaning to it and just listen out for the lyrics.Don’t get me wrong I do love my rock bands and as soon as someone disrespects any of my bands, they’ll be having it. I love 5SOS because they aren’t completely pop, they are punk and rock too which is another reason as to why I like them and also their genuine personalities, fashion sense and looks.

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Food- This probably seems like a stupid thing to write about but it’s one of many of things that I love and food is just… I can’t describe it! You’ve got so many different kinds of foods that you can try and enjoy. I love traditional British meals e.g. Sunday roast dinner, which is roasted chicken and potatoes with a selection of vegetables, gravy and a yorkshire pudding. I love sweet and savoury foods and a good thing about my body is that I have a high metabolism which means I can eat as much as I want. If you asked me what my favourite food was I couldn’t just give you one answer because there are so many foods that I love like spaghetti bolognese, chicken chow mien, pizza, nutella, dried mango, grapes and so much more!

Everyday things- I love it when I wake up in the morning and when my bedroom window is open because it brings in a breeze of cold, fresh air and I just love snuggling up in my duvet when I feel it, it might just be me but let me know if you love this feeling too. After a long tiring day, I like reflect on the day on the journey home and just think about what has happened, what I enjoyed and anything I need to do to improve tomorrow. I also love jumping onto my bed after school,  I just kick my shoes off, run up the stairs, drop my back and collapse onto my bed, perfection!

Personal things- I love it when someone shows me that they love or care about me because it just reassures me that I’m not alone in this world and that I do have access to people who can support me and I can trust them with my issues.

Holidays- Now I’m sure that everyone loves holidays and I especially love them because it’s where I can relax and forget everything bad that has happened and last of all have fun and explore the country!

Lazy days- Don’t you just love lazy days, chilling, movie marathons and lie-ins. My favourite films to watch are comedies and action films. I don’t seem to know a lot of people that like action films but one of the reasons as to why I like them is because I remember my dad watched them around me and I started to watch them with him. Watching action films are one of my favourite things to do with my dad.

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YouTubers- What can I say, if you know me well enough you’ll know that I love YouTubers so much, I couldn’t possibly list all the YouTubers I watch but some of the people I watch are Zoella, PointlessBlog all of the people in that British YouTube group, Tyler Oakley, Troye Sivan, iiSuperwomanii, The Fine Bros, BuzzFeed Video, LaToya Forever, Tpindell, YoMuscleBoii, StilaBabe09 and so many more and I mean loads more!

I hope you liked today’s blog and found some of these things interesting about me. I obviously can’t write about everything I love but my family and friends are the most obvious so I thought I’d leave that but if any of you want to know more about me then I can always do another one of these. Thanks for reading xoxo

 

P.S. I have started an Instagram account for my blog, the username is @cestlavie_blog. Please follow it to keep updated and I hope you like the account.

 

 

Parents

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Let’s face it we all love and hate our parents. There are always moments when you feel like that you could kill them but then there are other moments when you feel so happy and proud that your parents are your parents. Every child will feel like this but as you grow up you will realise how important they are to you and you start to regret how you treated them when you were a little younger or a teen.

I don’t think that many children or teens realise how much our parents do for them. Just stop for a minute and think about what they do and what they have done for you. They have kept a roof over your head, fed you, clothed you, kept you warm in the cold winters and more. When I come to think of it, my parents have done a lot for me to keep me safe, well-fed etc and I am very grateful for it. If you don’t tell your parents that you’re grateful very often then why not do it now (obviously after you’ve read this) because it will give them a nice surprise and show them that you are aware if what they do for you and that you appreciate them.

You might not ever think about this but as you grow up and worry about school etc, your parents are growing older too. It might sound odd to say but their life is going too and sometimes just give them time to do what they want because after all they are spending a lot of their time on you. Give them time to relax and live their life, I guarantee they’ll love it so maybe just on a chilled weekend, give them a little treat to enjoy while you leave them stress free.

You might think that your parents get involved in your social life too often but in actual fact they probably have a right to. They can sense what is happening in your social life and normally they are right which can sometimes be annoying but they only do this for the best. After all, they just want to keep you safe and out of trouble and I don’t blame because that’s what I’d do for my children. Just remember whatever they do, they don’t mean to interfere all they want to do is make sure that you are safe and you have friends that are trustworthy and can keep you out of trouble.

Doesn’t it sound a little weird that you could be a parent soon? Life is going really quickly and soon it’s just going to hit you that you’re at the age to have children! You’ve still got time though but imagine what it was like for your parents, were they prepared for it? I sometimes imagine how will my children be like and what would I be as a parent. I just hope that I will be able to provide a home, food, clothes etc for them like my parents have done for me.

I don’t know all of you who are reading and I definitely don’t know about your parents and even if you haven’t got parents or if you have a step mum or dad or any other type of parents e.g. foster parents. I hope that you have a good adult in your life even if you aren’t biologically related, I am sure that there is an adult that helps you and provides for you in some sort of way. Just remember even if you haven’t got a parent or parents, someone does still love you even if it’s your brother, sister or any other relative.

I hope you enjoyed today’s blog and that you can show your parents or any other adult in your life appreciation and love. Thanks for reading xoxo

Relationships

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I’ve noticed that some of my friends have been recently going into relationships and others have been ending some. There are so many ups and downs in relationships but there are also so many good things that can come out of them. They can also teach you things that would help you in future relationships. Unfortunately, people can be involved in abusive or unhealthy relationships but others find happy, healthy and long-lasting ones.

Now my past relationships haven’t been great because I’m still a teen but I have learnt a thing or two from them. You shouldn’t go into a relationship because you feel pressured to, do things that only you want to and feel comfortable doing after all you are going to be the one dealing with the aggro. Communication is a very big part in relationships too but I didn’t have much of that in my previous one so that didn’t work but in order for your relationship to work you MUST talk to each other because a lot of things could go wrong and lead to arguments.

Before you go into a relationship, think about how you feel towards the person. Do you trust that person? Can you trust them? If your answers to them are yes then there’s a chance that you two could have an honest relationship but it’s not only how you feel, their opinion always counts to. You cannot have a reliable bond if you can’t both trust each other. Most relationships are built on trust and without it you’ll have a slim chance of having an honest and open relationship.

Abusive relationships often lack respect and equality, over the past decades women have become equal to men but some men still don’t give women respect. It can leave the woman in the relationship feeling worthless which allows the man to abuse her and it ends up for the woman to accept it because she thinks she isn’t worth the fight. If there are any signs in your relationship please don’t feel that there is no one out there for you or that you have no voice. There are a lot of help lines that can help you and I’m sure your family and friends could help you too. Don’t feel that you are vulnerable because you are stronger than you think and you are capable to end the relationship and find the right person for you that will treat you right and respect you.

Aside from the negatives in relationships, there are also a lot of positives in them. The days that you can spend together either chilling or having a fun-filled day, no matter what each other’s company is the best. It can also give you a positive attitude towards life because even their presence brightens up your day. It’s sometimes difficult though if you are in a long distance relationship but as long as you have a strong, honest bond and that you two can meet up often then I’m sure you’ll have a good relationship together. Being together with someone is also good because you realise that someone is out there that cares for you and it’s just a nice feeling to have when at the end of the day you can talk to that special someone.

Whoever you’re in a relationship whether they’re the same gender as you or not. You can still date even if people don’t accept your homosexuality. You will find out who your true friends are and which family members can support you in any of your decisions. I think its very important to take small steps when you’re telling people about who you interested in and it will take time for them to accept it but as long as they can respect you and your decisions then you’re lucky to have supportive and caring people around you.

Often when teens are in relationships, our parents can get involved too. Sometimes there are bad and good things but I’m sure the majority of teens would say it’s mostly bad. I remember I’d find it embarrassing and a little awkward when my mum would ask if I had any boyfriends. When I have children, I’d like to know if my children would have a girlfriend or boyfriend but I think I would try not to make it embarrassing for them because I’d know what they would be going through. If my children would have different gender preferences, I would respect their decision and let them know that I’d be there to help them and support them because I wouldn’t want them to think that they can’t speak out or talk to me honestly.

Friends can come between relationships too and it isn’t because of a good reason. They can tell how you’re feeling if you’ve been acting differently since your relationship started and they’re normally right. There are a few sayings, for the boys “Bros before hoes” and for girls “Mates before dates” these are true, think about your partner. Are they worth more than your friends who have stuck by you? Do you want to lose your loyal friends over someone who is perhaps just a teen crush because most of the time, you’d think the partner is more important but in a matter of fact your friends are more important. There is a statistic that you lose 2-3 close friends during a relationship. I think this is true because one of my friends is in a relationship and the other person has often disrespected my friend. Another friend and I feel that we aren’t as close to her as we used to be because of our friend’s relationship but I think she is starting to see sense and I hope she realises what she needs in a relationship.

I hope you found this blog interesting and I hope that you have a good relationships in your future. Thanks for reading xoxo

 

Love

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Love is a wonderful and powerful feeling, people think of love in many different ways. People may have a love for food but that is different for the love of your family or friends, I think that there are lots of other types of love that you can feel towards objects or people.

Some people aren’t accepted for who they love, gay or lesbian, some of these people aren’t valued in their community for it. Most countries in the world have legalised homosexuality but some countries haven’t legalised homosexuality, the gays and lesbians in those countries have been abused, some of them killed. They hide out and feel as if they can’t be part of their community because they think they’re in danger. Fortunately, countries allow gay marriage which is wonderful. There is nothing wrong with being gay but other people think it is and unnatural, some teenagers are bullied in school for being gay but they are just a normal human being like me and you. People are also judged for age difference, as long as you feel you are truly in love and your partner feels the same way about you then who cares what everyone thinks, don’t let anyone tell you who to love because you’re the one going to have to live, talk, support and care for them.

Some young teens think that they are in love but its the soppy kind and it only lasts for a few months. I have to admit I thought I was “in love” but now that I think about it I wasn’t and I think it was a valuable lesson and I think I’ve matured in relationship wise and understand more about it. My past relationship has taught me not to get into one just because you feel you have to or be pressurised by other people, don’t agree to something because you have to, do it because you want to. I think in order to understand what love really is, you have to experience some bad things, to learn from your mistakes because life is a lesson and all about learning from your mistakes.

Love isn’t always what you feel towards other people, it can also be what you feel to an object e.g. bed (I know sad but true), phone, food sleep, money, clothes etc. You might love your hobbies or your new shoes and you treat your items as if they’re your baby and you feel as if you can’t live without them like your family. These objects are also very important to you and you would feel incomplete without them. Some people might may think its weird but there is probably some object they have that couldn’t live without so everyone has that special thing.

Someday you will find love whether it is a man or woman, they won’t be what you see in romance or Disney films so don’t expect anything amazing because love isn’t about perfection. “Imperfection is beauty”- Marilyn Monroe. Don’t judge the person on their looks because their personality is more important, you never know that person might be “the one”. Remember good looks fade but a good heart keeps you beautiful forever.

I hope you found this blog interesting and that it taught you something important. Thanks for reading xoxo

Boys

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Since it’s Valentines Day, I thought I would write about this topic, sorry if you’re a boy and if you’re reading this, it could be helpful so keep reading. Every girl will have a crush once a while in her life, some are meaningless but I think each different relationship teaches you a valuable life lesson. Unfortunately, some boys don’t feel the same way but just remember the one is out there waiting for his princess (you).

It might sound odd but boys actually have feelings too. Yes I know, shocking but they are very good at hiding their emotions. I think most of them do this because they like to feel manly so lets just let them do their thing. Some boys are very sensitive which is nice to know that they’re actually human but we still want a manly man but we will always respect their feelings and never judge them, so boys don’t worry, we completely understand.

Us girls can get very jealous and over protective on our crush, we too are also very good at disguising our feelings to boys but we can’t stop thinking about them. You just get that happy feeling, when you see them walk into class but then you also get that shy feeling which you just cannot help, you may feel like your heart rate has gone off the scale, you’ve lost you voice and you’ve got butterflies in your tummy and you seem to get this feeling all the time you see him but you just can’t help it. Every girl and I think boy, boys let me know if you do, but all us girls get this feeling when we see him.

“Looks attracts the eyes but personality captures the heart”. You don’t what attracted you to him but every boy has that special thing and it just pulls you in. You completely forget about his looks and you care about his heart and personality more. A lot of people say that looks are important which are a little true because you wouldn’t date the ugliest person in the world with the best personality would you? As long as you follow your heart with your choice and not the looks because looks can deceive you, remember that in a few years time, his body and face will age but his personality won’t so don’t make any silly mistakes.

If you’re lucky enough to date your crush and you have an okay relationship then it just ends after a couple of months, you’ll act like you didn’t care or love him but be honest, there’s still a part deep down inside of you that does. It’s okay, people will understand, you don’t have to kid yourself, it’s okay to let your feelings out maybe a little cry too (I recommend a film, tissues, chocolate and ice cream) it’ll help. Just remember that you’ll gain something out of it and there’s still something over the horizon waiting just for you. “Good things come to those who wait”.

I hope all of you have a lovely Valentines Day, and remember Valentines Day isn’t just for boyfriends and girlfriends, it’s a day to show all the people you love how much you love them so maybe tell your family or friends how much you love and appreciate them. Let me know what else you’d like me to write about.

Thanks for reading xoxo