Have you ever been in a situation with a ‘friend’ and ever thought if they are actually your friend? I know I have and to be honest it’s hard to tell if they are your friend or not because usually the person has done this more than once and is a master at it. In your life you are going to come across at least one frenemy and I am telling you now, prepare for bitchiness, back stabbing and rumours. You can defeat this ‘friend’ as long as you stay strong, do and say nothing bad about anyone and have a good group of friends supporting you because they are going to be the people that’ll keep you fighting.
At first you probably won’t be able to tell if someone is your friend or foe but there are slight giveaways that will alert you. One of the main ones is when something good happens to you e.g. winning an award for something they will snigger at you or roll their eyes when you start to talk about it. This should be easy to recognise if this consistently happens so look out for this because this is one of the biggest giveaways. Also another clue is when they gossip about you to your other friends, if you have one particular friend that you know you can trust ask them to listen out for what the other person says. I know it sounds a bit odd but you don’t want someone to talk about you behind your back and after all you want to know they truth to sort it all out. You should confront them and if they lie to your face then you know that the aren’t your true friend.
Once you have stood up to them, their behaviour might have rubbed onto you a little and you might not be aware of it but you might be turning into them a little but if you honestly can’t tell yourself that you have changed then get one of your friends to tell you because if you don’t change soon then it could get worse and you don’t want to turn into a backstabbing friend. If you have changed then try to go back to your old self, it’s for the best and it could affect your friendship group.
After a while if you feel like confronting your frenemy was a bad idea then don’t regret it because if you didn’t do it then you would still have to live with their nasty side comments and not being able to be confident within your friendship group because you were afraid that they would take the mick out of you. You shouldn’t regret anything you do, as long as you do it for your benefits and you feel the decision is sensible and you are comfortable with it then who cares of what other people think.
I don’t really understand why people do this, they don’t get any reward out of it and it just creates a bad image of them. The only reason I can think of is that they get satisfaction from it but it is definitely not a good type of satisfaction, if someone enjoys degrading someone with their comments and making them feel unsure about themselves then I don’t know what type of person they are because personally why would anyone want to do that. If you dislike someone then tell them to their face because if you don’t it just creates rumours and arguments, if you cannot tell that person face to face then it shows that you aren’t a very strong or confident person within yourself and it proves that you should keep your thoughts to yourself. Once you have spoken to them you have to stick by your words because denying them will just make you look like less of a person. This saying is true, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, I wish more people would stick to this because this would help avoid a lot of arguments and rumours being spread.
I hope you enjoyed today’s blog and that you can find those frenemies in your group. Next week I’ll be doing a Q&A so you can tweet me @CestLaVie_Blog, write on my Facebook page or comment down below! Thanks for reading xoxo