Teenage Drug Usage

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Just before I start to write about this topic, I want to make one thing clear and that is that I have never taken drugs before and I do not have any contact with any dealers. Everything that I write about is what I have learnt and heard from friends.

I’ve recently noticed that a lot of people have started to take or smoke drugs and a very large majority of them are in the early teens. It’s becoming more popular that teens take drugs and to be honest I don’t know why. Why is it that it’s our generation being abused with drugs? I suppose the answer to this is that we are probably the easiest age group to target and as a lot of people in the media are taking drugs, teens are more willing to try them. The dealers aren’t complaining though because they are the ones taking in all the money and they don’t care about the ages of their customers because business is business.

One of the main reasons of why many teens take or try drugs is because of the people around them or peer pressure. If your parents or older siblings take any substances then you are more likely to try them because the drugs are in reach which tempts you to try them. Peer pressure is a big cause because the teen social scene is revolved around drinking, smoking and taking drugs. If you have older friends then they are probably more likely to know someone who sells drugs or they might take it themselves. Your friend might urge you to try a joint or something else and drugs are usually seen as a ‘normal teenage experience’ but really it’s not, if you think about the teens decades ago they would’ve thought that it was definitely odd for teens to take drugs and it is. We are still growing up and why should a plant affect our future body and mind, if you’d see the side effects and the facts about drugs I think it would put you off. Please if you are ever offered drugs, a cigarette or an alcoholic drink decline it. Think about what you are putting into your body and think about how you are affecting it.

Another purpose of drug use is because of boredom and wanting to ‘escape’ the world. What I mean by that is when a teen is unhappy with something in their life, they will want to find a solution of ‘escaping’ and that escape is often drugs. At a certain point when you are mostly mentally weak if you are offered a drug, it’ll be harder for you to refuse and unfortunately it would end up with you taking the drug. ┬áDepending on what is taken you may feel happy, oblivious, hyper, confident etc and whatever the effect is it’ll work but once you recover you will realise that you have made a mistake. If you are still feeling down, you’ll feel as if the drug is your only escape to happiness but in actual fact, it is making the whole situation worse and rather than doing that try and sort it out whatever it is even if you need professional help because sorting the problem out is better than feeling like no one can help you.

I know a few people who take certain drugs and I won’t mention their names but whenever I see them do it, I feel disappointed that they take drugs because I have know them nearly their whole life. To see them change and grow into a bad habit destroys me and it jut shows me that people can change so much. I have often tried to convince them to stop because they’ll get addicted and that a lot of them will change without them realising. They always reassure me that they will not get addicted and that they’d stop soon but I still feel weary that they won’t stop.

I have seen the side effects in person and seen the difference between the old person and the new person who had been taking drugs. The effects aren’t good and if you could see the effects yourself you’d be shocked. The appearance and the overall person changes and you’d be horrified if you’d see them happen to you. If you actually thought about it and saw yourself in the mirror I’m sure you would be convinced to stop because some causes are long term and the usage of drugs can also cause many types of cancers.

I hope you found this blog interesting and that I have changed your view of drugs, please make wise decisions with what you do. Thanks for reading xoxo

Parents

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Let’s face it we all love and hate our parents. There are always moments when you feel like that you could kill them but then there are other moments when you feel so happy and proud that your parents are your parents. Every child will feel like this but as you grow up you will realise how important they are to you and you start to regret how you treated them when you were a little younger or a teen.

I don’t think that many children or teens realise how much our parents do for them. Just stop for a minute and think about what they do and what they have done for you. They have kept a roof over your head, fed you, clothed you, kept you warm in the cold winters and more. When I come to think of it, my parents have done a lot for me to keep me safe, well-fed etc and I am very grateful for it. If you don’t tell your parents that you’re grateful very often then why not do it now (obviously after you’ve read this) because it will give them a nice surprise and show them that you are aware if what they do for you and that you appreciate them.

You might not ever think about this but as you grow up and worry about school etc, your parents are growing older too. It might sound odd to say but their life is going too and sometimes just give them time to do what they want because after all they are spending a lot of their time on you. Give them time to relax and live their life, I guarantee they’ll love it so maybe just on a chilled weekend, give them a little treat to enjoy while you leave them stress free.

You might think that your parents get involved in your social life too often but in actual fact they probably have a right to. They can sense what is happening in your social life and normally they are right which can sometimes be annoying but they only do this for the best. After all, they just want to keep you safe and out of trouble and I don’t blame because that’s what I’d do for my children. Just remember whatever they do, they don’t mean to interfere all they want to do is make sure that you are safe and you have friends that are trustworthy and can keep you out of trouble.

Doesn’t it sound a little weird that you could be a parent soon? Life is going really quickly and soon it’s just going to hit you that you’re at the age to have children! You’ve still got time though but imagine what it was like for your parents, were they prepared for it? I sometimes imagine how will my children be like and what would I be as a parent. I just hope that I will be able to provide a home, food, clothes etc for them like my parents have done for me.

I don’t know all of you who are reading and I definitely don’t know about your parents and even if you haven’t got parents or if you have a step mum or dad or any other type of parents e.g. foster parents. I hope that you have a good adult in your life even if you aren’t biologically related, I am sure that there is an adult that helps you and provides for you in some sort of way. Just remember even if you haven’t got a parent or parents, someone does still love you even if it’s your brother, sister or any other relative.

I hope you enjoyed today’s blog and that you can show your parents or any other adult in your life appreciation and love. Thanks for reading xoxo

Exams

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Exams are probably one of the most stressful times of a teen’s life. Around this time of the year, people in secondary school or high school are preparing or in the middle of their exams. The amount of things we have to revise and remember is unbelievable. Sometimes when I revise and don’t understand something, I have a breakdown and feel like I’m going to fail the test and my whole life! In actual fact, it’s just a little phase and you might feel like that too but it is going to be okay.

Whatever you are stuck on, break it down into smaller pieces remember panicking is just going to make it worse. If you are feeling a little under pressure, take a break and try to calm down, it WILL help you relax and to revise. Perhaps going through the work with a friend especially if they understand it would definitely help you because they’ll know when too much is for you also they will probably explain it a whole lot easier than your parents or teacher. If you cannot figure out how to work out the answer then just leave it for a while because I guarantee once you’ve concentrated on something else and go back to it, you will understand the previous question and find it so much easier. Remember to focus on the other topics in the exam, if you cannot do one of them. “Focus on your strengths because they will over power your weaknesses.” (Just made this up, I think it’s a pretty cool quote).

One of the worst things about exams are the night before, even though you’ve done a good amount of revision, you still feel you have to revise the night before which piles up even more stress. Revising the night before just makes it worse and in fact I find you’re more likely to forget everything you have learnt. Rather than worry about revising at 11:00pm at night, you should get some sleep because you’re more likely to remember the things you have learnt and getting a few extra hours of sleep improves your health and mind.

If you don’t revise then why not? You only get once chance to do them and it’s not like they take up your whole life, it might feel like they do but your school years are only the beginning years of your life. Just put your social life to the side for a while because you can always get back to it. Your final exams only come once and I don’t know about any other countries around the world but in the UK we don’t get a second chance so if you are reading this and you are from the UK, then please take them seriously because these exams determine part of your future life.

Another nerve-racking thing about exams is walking into the hall or classroom. You see the papers lay down on the desks and as you walk up to your seat, you know that “this is it”. You take your seat, write your name on your paper and when the teacher tells you to go, that’s it. The first few questions are easy but as you proceed the questions get harder and then there’s that one question that completely blanks your mind. You stare around looking for someone to help you but there are strict rules, it feels like the end. Suddenly, you remember how to workout the question, you feel like you are going to ace the exam.

Once the test is over about after a week, you receive your results. Just before you get your paper, you get butterflies and feel so nervous about it. Whenever I’m about get back exam results, I always prepare myself for the worst but when I get a better grade than I thought I would it just makes me feel so much better about myself. I would definitely recommend this to avoid disappointment. Just remember whatever results you get back whether good or bad, you will always find something to fall back on whether it is drama, dance or another school subject.

Here’s a video to show you that exams don’t rule your life and to inspire you.

I hope you enjoyed this blog and that it eased your mind slightly. If you have got exams this week or anytime in the future, good luck! Thanks for reading xoxo

Relationships

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I’ve noticed that some of my friends have been recently going into relationships and others have been ending some. There are so many ups and downs in relationships but there are also so many good things that can come out of them. They can also teach you things that would help you in future relationships. Unfortunately, people can be involved in abusive or unhealthy relationships but others find happy, healthy and long-lasting ones.

Now my past relationships haven’t been great because I’m still a teen but I have learnt a thing or two from them. You shouldn’t go into a relationship because you feel pressured to, do things that only you want to and feel comfortable doing after all you are going to be the one dealing with the aggro. Communication is a very big part in relationships too but I didn’t have much of that in my previous one so that didn’t work but in order for your relationship to work you MUST talk to each other because a lot of things could go wrong and lead to arguments.

Before you go into a relationship, think about how you feel towards the person. Do you trust that person? Can you trust them? If your answers to them are yes then there’s a chance that you two could have an honest relationship but it’s not only how you feel, their opinion always counts to. You cannot have a reliable bond if you can’t both trust each other. Most relationships are built on trust and without it you’ll have a slim chance of having an honest and open relationship.

Abusive relationships often lack respect and equality, over the past decades women have become equal to men but some men still don’t give women respect. It can leave the woman in the relationship feeling worthless which allows the man to abuse her and it ends up for the woman to accept it because she thinks she isn’t worth the fight. If there are any signs in your relationship please don’t feel that there is no one out there for you or that you have no voice. There are a lot of help lines that can help you and I’m sure your family and friends could help you too. Don’t feel that you are vulnerable because you are stronger than you think and you are capable to end the relationship and find the right person for you that will treat you right and respect you.

Aside from the negatives in relationships, there are also a lot of positives in them. The days that you can spend together either chilling or having a fun-filled day, no matter what each other’s company is the best. It can also give you a positive attitude towards life because even their presence brightens up your day. It’s sometimes difficult though if you are in a long distance relationship but as long as you have a strong, honest bond and that you two can meet up often then I’m sure you’ll have a good relationship together. Being together with someone is also good because you realise that someone is out there that cares for you and it’s just a nice feeling to have when at the end of the day you can talk to that special someone.

Whoever you’re in a relationship whether they’re the same gender as you or not. You can still date even if people don’t accept your homosexuality. You will find out who your true friends are and which family members can support you in any of your decisions. I think its very important to take small steps when you’re telling people about who you interested in and it will take time for them to accept it but as long as they can respect you and your decisions then you’re lucky to have supportive and caring people around you.

Often when teens are in relationships, our parents can get involved too. Sometimes there are bad and good things but I’m sure the majority of teens would say it’s mostly bad. I remember I’d find it embarrassing and a little awkward when my mum would ask if I had any boyfriends. When I have children, I’d like to know if my children would have a girlfriend or boyfriend but I think I would try not to make it embarrassing for them because I’d know what they would be going through. If my children would have different gender preferences, I would respect their decision and let them know that I’d be there to help them and support them because I wouldn’t want them to think that they can’t speak out or talk to me honestly.

Friends can come between relationships too and it isn’t because of a good reason. They can tell how you’re feeling if you’ve been acting differently since your relationship started and they’re normally right. There are a few sayings, for the boys “Bros before hoes” and for girls “Mates before dates” these are true, think about your partner. Are they worth more than your friends who have stuck by you? Do you want to lose your loyal friends over someone who is perhaps just a teen crush because most of the time, you’d think the partner is more important but in a matter of fact your friends are more important. There is a statistic that you lose 2-3 close friends during a relationship. I think this is true because one of my friends is in a relationship and the other person has often disrespected my friend. Another friend and I feel that we aren’t as close to her as we used to be because of our friend’s relationship but I think she is starting to see sense and I hope she realises what she needs in a relationship.

I hope you found this blog interesting and I hope that you have a good relationships in your future. Thanks for reading xoxo