Stereotypes

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Just before I start talking about stereotypes, I don’t mean to be offensive, rude or racist so please don’t be offended because I don’t mean it in a harsh way at all. Everyone is stereotyped even if you do think that you are a normal human which we all are, unfortunately we fall into a category that society puts us in and we are labelled. This can be taken seriously especially if they are racist or involve religion. No one should be judged just because of their nationality, skin colour, gender, music/clothes etc.

From my point of view, I think that there are a lot of stereotypes for teenagers like that we are all moody, lazy, get in trouble and more but in a matter of fact there are only a few people like this and that leaves the majority of us with no voice because we are apparently all the same. It drives me crazy sometimes because any adult that I know will say to me “Oh lazy bones, typical teenager”. I just feel like screaming, we are not all the same and I wonder how they would feel if we said to them something like “Oh getting a bit rickety in the bones”, they would definitely feel offended and probably say show some respect but we all deserve the same amount of respect so they shouldn’t just judge us on our stereotype.

All nationalities have a stereotype and I’m sure that you would be able to name some popular ones for your country. As I am partly Ukrainian and Russian, I’m often stereotyped and some people say “Do you like vodka?”, “Are you friends with Putin?” or simply they just shout “Oi Russian” instead of my name. If the person is a friend, I would either slap or punch them on the arm, it might sound mean but it actually drives me INSANE at one point I actually shouted in their face because they continually called me “Russian” and their response was… “Are you on your period?”. I can’t even describe how angry I was, I wanted to punch them in the face and shout but don’t worry I didn’t. If you do, do this to someone even if they are a friend or if you say its a joke, they are going to take it seriously no matter what and they will feel like I did inside and you don’t want to drive them crazy because one day they will EXPLODE and I mean it, they will blame it all on you and you will have to deal with the consequences.

Gender stereotypes are also irritating because when I am in school if a girl attempts something like answering a question and if she gets it wrong, some boys are like “Ohh, its just because you’re a girl” but if its the other way round no one says anything. Also when we get test results back, all the boys think it’s shameful to get a lower grade than a girl especially if she’s blonde which I find absolutely ridiculous. As I am a blonde, if I get an answer right or the top five highest grade, some of the boys go “Ooh well done!” but you know what I love is when it turns out that I get a higher grade than them. I just have a smug look and feel like going all diva like and clicking my fingers.

Racist stereotypes have been going on for decades and sadly I think there will always be but as long as you find a nice neighbourhood or a good group of friends and so long as they don’t judge you, you can block out all the negative racist thoughts then you’ll be fine. There have also been recent stereotypes like the common white girl or the ghetto/ratchet black girl even though there are a few people like this, some people feel like that some of us are like that but really we’re not, before you judge someone get to know them first.

I hope this hasn’t been too depressing but I just wanted to inform you if you do judge someone think about what you say because it will affect even if you don’t realise. “Judging a person doesn’t define who they are, it defines who you are”. Thanks for reading xoxo

 

Advice & Tips For Blogging

Image Have you ever thought of starting a blog? Well then, today is your lucky day because I’m going to be giving you some advice and helpful tips about how to start a new blog.

So if you want to start blogging then, you’ve first got to decide which website you want to use. There are a lot of websites to choose from but the main ones are Blogger and WordPress. Personally, I think WordPress is better because it’s very simple and easy to use. It’s also free to use and to create your blog, there are also over 150 themes to pick from which are free too! You can access the amount of views and visitors you get, you are also able to see where the viewers are from which I think is really cool. The sign up is very easy, all you have to do is enter your email address, choose a password and a username.

Once you have created your account, you need to decide what type of blog you’ll be doing: fashion, photography, life, make up etc. Then you’ve got to choose an appropriate name that is linked to your blog, there are blog name generators that you could use or another cool way to make a name is by taking a popular quote or phase from what you are basing your blog on and then you can translate it into another language. You don’t necessarily have to do what I suggested but it is a different way of choosing the name of your blog.

Now for the tips:

1. Pictures matter- pictures make your blog look more interesting. They make it more colourful and they are likely to attract more readers but don’t just choose any random picture, choose one that will relate to the topic that you are writing about.

2. Put your post into a category and tag it with relatable topics- tagging your posts will instantly get it more views because people will often look for a post that is related to whatever they are looking and it is likely that they will look at your post if it has a good title and picture. Putting your post into a category is also like tagging it but I think doing both is best just so that your viewers can see what type of posts you have.

3. Choosing a good title- this is also important because it is the first thing that most people will see. Good titles will interest the reader and they will be more likely to look at your other posts.

4. Share your posts on social medias- by sharing your posts on social medias, it’ll make your blog more popular as SO many people have one, they’ll probably check your blog out.

5. Commenting- by commenting on other people’s blog, you are going to be noticed by the person and the other commenters. Find blogs that are similar to yours and if you comment something about their post and link your blog, they will probably check out your blog and hopefully follow it.

6. Tell your friends- your real friends will definitely look at your blog and probably enjoy reading it whatever the topic is. I’m very lucky to have friends that enjoy my blog and they show support which I am very grateful for.

7. Blog often- if you blog more regularly and frequently your audience is more likely to rise and you are going to get more views.

8. Size doesn’t matter- remember size doesn’t matter, as long as you have a committed audience that you know who enjoy your blogs then you are fine.

9. Quality over quantity- it doesn’t matter how long your posts are as long as they have good material that makes sense and they actually relate to your title then you are writing good blogs.

10. It takes time- you are going to have to be patient, you aren’t suddenly going to gain a lot of followers overnight. Nothing worth having comes easy so if you are really committed to your blog, you will gain more followers quicker than you realise.

Don’t just start a blog because you think you’ll be able to get paid a lot for it, the truth is if you aren’t passionate about what you are doing then the content probably isn’t going to be good as it should be. Only do it because you want not because you feel you have to. I hope you enjoyed this blog and that if you do start one that you gain a lot of loyal followers, happy blogging! Thanks for reading xoxo

25 Random facts.

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I thought I would tell you 25 random facts about me, for my first blog, as you don’t know anything about me.

1.My full name is: Cora Daisy Bremner.

2.I am English Irish Scottish and Polish.

3.My favourite colours are peach lilac and red.

4.I do not and never have had a pet.

5.I have two older sisters and one younger brother.

6.My birthday is on the 26th of July.

7.My favourite animal is a giraffe.

8.My star sign is leo.

9.My height is 5 foot 6.

10.I moved house when I was 2/3, but I have not moved since.

11.I have 25 Cousins and 1 of my aunties is pregnant.

12.Most of my family live in England but some live in Scotland.

13.I do not play any instruments but I did play the recorder in my infant school.

14.I am addicted to YouTube.

15.My hobbies include acting and…

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Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin

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Nowadays I think being yourself is hard for people to do because there are so many different distractions that often lead us astray from our real selves. Sadly, most people try hard to change themselves into someone who they are really not, I think because we are surrounded by some many different perceptions of how we should be as a person, we are often confused and misled into what we think is ‘perfect’.

In order, to be your true self you must find yourself and define who you are but you cannot be yourself if you don’t know, understand and accept yourself first. Spend some time thinking about what you truly value and think about what really makes you who you are. Personality tests would probably help you too but don’t let the results define who you really are. Another way to find out more about yourself is perhaps joining a club that you might not always go for because you could learn something new about yourself. If this doesn’t work then you could join a club that you do have interests in because you will have a variety of new people to  meet who also enjoy the same things as you do.

Avoid the things that happened in the past because people grown and change. “The past can hurt but the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it”-Rafiki (The Lion King). One of the wrong things to do is define yourself from your past actions now we all make mistakes but you cannot judge yourself from them. You’ve got to accept the mistakes and choices you’ve made; they’re done and in the past. At that moment in time, you had your reasons that made sense to make those decisions so instead of wasting time in regretting the choices you made, allow yourself to learn from it and continue to grow.

Now if you are going to be the real you, there are obviously going to be some people who will judge you and you shouldn’t really care about how people perceive you because if you thought about yourself from other people’s view, you would be always be changing yourself but you will never be able to create the ‘perfect’ you to satisfy everyone. To be yourself, you’ve got to let go of their concerns and not let their thoughts and opinions of you, change who you are. People may offend you but as long as you don’t take their comments in then they cannot interfere within you. I think that a lot of people base themselves on others people’s thoughts but if you do this then you aren’t going to be the real you, people would love and accept you more for the real you rather than the fake you. If you are changing yourself to impress someone then you shouldn’t because they are being impressed by the wrong you and the true you is probably better than the other person you are pretending to be. This person might find out that you are trying to be different in order to impress them, this could lead them to thinking that you are a bad or lying person, which in actual fact you probably aren’t. So to make sure that people aren’t deceived by the wrong person, be yourself and you’ll be accepted and loved more because of that.

To find out more about yourself, you are going to have to be honest and open with yourself. You’ve got nothing to hide, we are all imperfect but learning human beings, so there is nothing to be ashamed of whether it is emotionally or physically because we all have our imperfections. If you feel insecure about yourself then try to change it because it’s not going to get any better and that problem will just keep growing on you, it’ll make you feel better and you’ll know that you can achieve more than you think.

Expressing yourself is a great way in being yourself whether that is learning something new, dancing, singing, painting etc. By expressing your sense of style, you will be able to communicate well. Doing what you love will always result with positive outcomes and by doing that you are going to be living a healthier and happier lifestyle. The better you express yourself, the easier it will be for people to understand you as a person and they are more likely to prefer the real you.

You are never going to be happy if you compare yourself to others because remember there is a thing called Photoshop and you are always going to be deceived of what a real and natural person is. You are always going to see the appearance that people in public would dream of having but in reality that person’s body or hair isn’t real and it has been edited on. Avoid being harsh to yourself because you aren’t a Hollywood star with a life coach who is planning your diet and lifestyle, how are you supposed to be ‘perfect’ when you haven’t got any support. You cannot depend your looks on something that isn’t even real.

Being different to everyone else is an amazing thing and having your own clothing style is great because it truly expresses who you are and your mood. Your clothes really state who you are and it shows everyone your true style. Your fashion sense will show everyone for who you are and people are going to be more attracted for your unique side. People might criticise you for it but don’t let their opinion change you.

This has been one of my longest posts but there are so many things to say about this topic, I hope that you are able to achieve your true self and I’m sure that people will accept you for it. Thanks for reading xoxo

Second Month Celebration!

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Even though it is a Sunday, it’s still a day to celebrate because of… MY TWO MONTH CELEBRATION! I’m actually quite surprised that I haven’t stopped writing yet but don’t worry because now that I have been doing this a decent amount of time. I know that I can’t let anyone down even if that is a small amount of great committed readers.

I would like to say that I am very proud of what I do because I know that I am doing some good in the world and I love that it could help people in their lives too. Also I am very thankful for my readers and followers because I don’t think that I’d still be writing if it wasn’t for all of you. Even if you just view one of my posts, it lets me know that someone out there is reading what I am writing and hopefully taking some valuable life information.

Anyway enough of the sappy talk, I am very thankful for all of you reading and I hope that you can continue to enjoy my posts. My usual post will still carry on Wednesday and as per usual, thanks for reading xoxo

Responsibility

 

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Most people don’t take responsibility for their actions, this usually causes a lot of arguments and friendships/relationships are normally affected by this too. People have to understand that by taking responsibility, you are becoming a better person and that you are a stronger, trustworthy and honest person. Taking responsibility may involve taking risks but you have to admit to your actions in order to resolve them.

A large amount of people usually don’t think about what they are doing, they don’t stop at that moment to think. What are the consequences of my actions and how will it affect me? By thinking about this before you do something potentially harmful, you are more likely to come to your senses and decide if what you are doing will help you in a negative or positive way. Unfortunately, most of us don’t think about what we are doing regardless the situation, we end up regretting what happened and therefore we deny what we did.

The worst case scenario is that someone’s life is taken possibly yours or a loved one or that you end in trouble with the law. For ever action you take there is going to be a consequence whether it is good or bad but whatever it is you have to accept the issue and punishment. If you react in a violent way to your punishment, you are going to get yourself into even more trouble than you were at the start. By understanding what you have done, you are more likely to learn from that mistake and take responsibility for your future actions.

Don’t forget that there are also good results in taking authority such as more people trusting you, knowing that you are honest with everyone etc. You are more likely to be gaining a stronger and more honest relationship and friendships because the people around you will be able to trust you more and know that they aren’t going to be blamed for your actions. If you can prove this at your work place by completing a task to the right standard or even better, your supervisor/boss will consider you as a strong and reliable person. By taking responsibility, you are able to prove yourself to people that you are capable of taking on challenges. “With great power comes great responsibility”.

Think about your actions because you are going to have to take responsibility whether you like it or not. This is one of the many things in life that you have to accept because if you cannot then how are you expected to move on in life and be considered as a responsible human being.

I hope that you have learnt something from this and understand why taking responsibility is so important. Thanks for reading xoxo

Piggy In The Middle!

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So the annoying thing about having two really close friends is that they sometimes get into arguments and you are kind of stuck in between of it, if you are in this situation then keep reading because I’ll be telling you about my experiences of this and ways to get out of this too.

So if you are currently in the middle of one, then think about why they’re in an argument and what the cause of it was. Who’s fault was it, was it yours? Now I know what this feels like and it’s probably one of the worst things to be stuck in, especially when the two people are one of your closet friends, it’s an awkward place to be in. Certainly, some other people will ask if you’re on a side and don’t feel as you have to answer to them because you don’t, if they don’t understand what’s happening or they’re just nosey either way tell them to keep their nose out of it in a nice way. Also you don’t have to choose sides because it could and probably will result in a bad way, you’ll lose one of your friends or maybe even both of them!

If you do pick sides or feel that you have to just remember whoever is in the wrong but you shouldn’t always back them up, this argument is between only them two and I don’t think you should get involved unless you feel its right to or that things might be getting out of hand. Whatever side you pick just remind yourself that you’ve got a price to pay because you might be risking your friendship with the other person but as I said before don’t feel that you have to because you are going to be the one dealing with the consequences.

You’re probably going to feel confused and annoyed but whatever you do, do not take it out on the two people arguing because it will add to yours and their stresses, it will probably make matters even worse. Try to stay calm and tell yourself that you’re not the one arguing so why should you be stressed out, as long as you don’t stir things up, you’ll be fine and hopefully your friends will make up and I’m very sure that they’ll thank you for being there for them and being able to cope with this situation.

On the other hand, this might not work out and it could end up with them separating meaning that you’ll be in an even more difficult situation but remember to tell them that you are equally still friends with both of them. You don’t want your friendship to be affected as well, hopefully they’ll respect your decision and accept it.

I hope you found this blog helpful and that if you do get caught in this situation, you know how to deal with it. As always, thanks for reading xoxo

 

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