If only friendships could last like ones in films, they live next door and you spend hours together on a hot summers day in each others garden BUT we don’t live in a film world. Maintaining friendships especially during life changing events like moving house or changing classes in the new school year etc. It’s not easy, it isn’t uncommon to grow apart from your friends at this age and as you get older it becomes harder to make new friends. I’m going to give you five steps to maintaining old time friendships:
1. Communicate- Remember ‘SPE’ See Phone Email, social media can make you feel like you’re in touch with your friend more than you actually are with them. You should work hard to try to see the person whenever you can, if they don’t live near you then phone them rather than email. It will show them that you’re serious about this relationship and it allows for longer intimate conversations.
2. Send ‘You’ Greetings- Once you call them, you might feel there is an awkward silence and you don’t know how to break the ice. Send a ‘you’ greeting by asking how they are and remember to throw in a few compliments.
3. Don’t be too hard on your friend- One common thing you might notice now is that after you have been talking for a little while, is that you two have a little bit less in common but this is completely natural. Sometimes you and your friend will just drift apart, people change a lot in this time of their life now that doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends with someone, just try not to focus on your differences. Focus on your shared experiences and above all cut them some slack, think about the person you were when you first met them. You’ve changed, why can’t they?
4. Take advantage of big events- reunions, birthdays if you rarely get a chance to see your friend, these events can be perfect opportunities to reconnect and catch up with them also try to celebrate without any awkwardness, make it obvious to them and invite them to any other large gathering.
5. Have fun together- do something with your friend that you wouldn’t usually do or just hang out together when you both have homework because it will make it so much fun. You could do this once a week, it’ll broaden your conversations with them, you’ll have so many more great experiences with them and it’ll feel so rewarding for you that you two can still have fun even if you’re aren’t as close as you were before.
Now things in life don’t always go to plan and it could go wrong, maybe you two weren’t meant to be? I hope this does work for you though and don’t worry and remember everything does happen for a reason. If they don’t work out then just remember about all the great things you did together and treasure those memories for life.
I hope you found this blog helpful and that things in life don’t always go to plan, you just have to accept it and move on. If you do try it and let me know how you got on in the comments, good luck! Thanks for reading xoxo